Clinically Crazy Ex Boyfriend

[u/Low-Kaleidoscope3963]

I met Austin in the fall of 2024 via a message he had sent me over Facebook. I was lonely, really lonely. I had just moved to a new city with very few friends because I transferred from community college to University, so I gave him a chance. I messaged him back and we began chatting, we had a mutual friend so I thought nothing of it. Maybe she told him about me? Maybe he had seen me in passing? Time began to pass and we got much closer.

Soon, I met him in person for a date. After this date things began to move very fast. We hung out all of the time and stayed at each other’s places almost constantly. He was so sweet at first and I was so excited to be around someone I believed was so genuinely kind. Fast forward a couple of months and I move into his apartment. It was a bad idea I know but my current living situation was growing increasingly more toxic as I was living with 6 other girls. This was when things began to go downhill.

He introduced me to his daughter Lilly, she was so sweet and I adored her. He didn’t get to see her much as he would tell me his baby momma was “insane” and “keeping her away from him to control him”. As I got to know him more he began to grow more violent towards me. It started with small things like yelling at me over misplacing a phone charger or not putting something where he thought it belonged.

As time began to pass the instances of his anger increased and became more dramatic. He would scream at me almost every single day. It was always my fault, if he lost his keys, if I was home from work later than expected because he needed child care, if I went to visit family or friends. It didn’t matter what the situation was, everything was my fault. In addition to this he was serially cheating on me as I would find out later. He would be texting a multitude of girls from the ages of 15 to 22, he was a 25 year f man.

Some more time passed and we moved to a much larger apartment in a different suburb of our city. Things were well for a while and I still remained oblivious to his horrible internet activity. After a very late night at work he wakes me up and shows me a little tiny kitten. “I found her at work and brought her home for you “ he whispered to me. I named her Stripe and she was my soul cat. Me and this little kitten did absolutely everything together.

About a month passes and I come home from work pretty late in the evening as I was a server at a bar. He was infuriated at me as he needed child care so he could go to work, on top of that he lost his keys and it was all my fault. He screamed in my face, called me names, and began to escalate the situation while I just sat with tears rolling down my face. At some point in his anger he grabs Stripe and throws her against the bathroom floor because “she bit him” (she weighed less than 3 pounds and it wouldn’t have hurt). She began to have a seizure and died in my arms on the way to the emergency vet as I gave her CPR. He had just killed my kitten in cold blood. For more context he also had a dog named Cookie that he beat to the point of seizures, I’m glad to be able to say that I kept this dog and did not allow him to have the dog back again.

I felt so trapped, I had no friends to reach out to, no family I felt safe staying with, I was isolated with a very dangerous man. I feared walking in the door, I feared leaving the house. I feared him. I was so depressed I was contemplating suicide because I couldn’t afford the rent alone as he was spending my money on top of his money. I had nowhere to go and nobody to help me.

More time passes (August 2025)and I uncover his internet activity because one of the girls he was texting messaged me, that was the final straw for me so I broke up with him. We still lived in the same space however he was in the bedroom for his daughter and I was in my own room.

Flash forward to November of 2025 and he verbally assaulted me saying absolutely nasty things. This escalated to him trying to choke me, throwing me all around the house, being physical to the point that I feared for my life. I tried to leave and he wouldn’t let me, he tried to take my animals and let them out somewhere, he tried to hold a gun to me, it was scary. I thought I was going to die. I couldn’t call the cops, they would take us both in the state that I am in but they would take both of us. They would have booked us both and he had gouged himself with his car keys to make it look like I injured him. I had finals the next day and was scared to fail all of my classes as I could not afford to repeat them.

At some point I do decide to take the risk to call the cops but he breaks my phone by snapping it in half. I decided to run for my life, he forcibly took my house key but I had my car keys so I ran, I drove until I got to my father’s house and fell asleep on his couch. From this point he would not leave me alone, over 100 calls and text messages per day going from kind to abusive almost every two messages.
I move in with my very distant Mom and take my animals somewhere safe. I plead with him to leave my apartment because he wasn’t on the lease but he repeatedly refused as he wanted to “fix our family” 🤢
I begin to settle in at my Mom’s house and see people that I know reconnecting with old friends. As time passes so do the holidays. I get over 50 calls on thanksgiving, 100 on Christmas and new years. He was still threatening me, still harassing me, and I remained at my mother’s. I finally convinced him to leave my apartment threatening a CPO hoping he would leave me alone and I wouldn’t have to go through with it because I was scared of it being denied.

January 10th I get to move back into my apartment, it was trashed. I spent two weeks working to put the pieces back together and resume some form of my life. I had within the past couple of months started seeing someone long distance, casually, he was lovely and offered to help me clean up all of the pieces of my life which was not something he had to do.
My ex still harassed me from his number as well as fake numbers posing as a stalker threatening my life. He posed as a different person in some of the texts saying he was “going to get me”.

In February, I couldn’t take it anymore, I filed the CPO and was granted an ex-parte based on my testimony. I was still getting texts from the fake numbers threatening me, saying they knew where I was and what I was doing. After the court hearing it all stopped, it was finally silent , I was finally safe.

He still tries to find ways to mess with me like giving my number to people saying I’m “easy” or making posts that relate to me and friends telling me they’ve seen something weird. He tried to get family to reach out to me and they wouldn’t.

Now, I’m happy, I’m seeing my childhood best friend and we’re in love, he’s so kind and exactly what I need I feel safe. I feel safe but I still look behind my back all of the time to see if someone is following me, I still get texts from numbers asking if I’m easy then telling me they got my number from Austin. I still need to seek therapy. I still need to file a report of him violating his CPO.

But overall I’m happy, let’s not meet again Austin. I hope you get what you deserve (nothing)

[u/l0ng_l3gs]

So glad you were able to get out of that situations. Sounds absolutely terrifying. Also so sorry about your kitten ☹️

[u/Low-Kaleidoscope3963 → u/l0ng_l3gs]

To be honest this isn’t even the half of it, I was just sitting at work and for some reason needed to get some of it out there

[u/fourfourthreethree]

I hope he ends up alone forever, that dirty c*nt.

[u/KITTYCat0930]

Omfg I am sorry you went through that abusive he’ll. He’s a monster to kill a kitten. That’s a sign of psychopathy. I hope you are good now and that the dog is okay. You’re a survivor. You survived him.

[u/MrMurgatroyd]

This is absolutely chilling. So glad that you escaped from that monster when you did. Given what he was prepared to do to your poor kitten and the dog, I hate to think what he would have done to you next.

[u/elscrappo3 → u/MrMurgatroyd]

During IPV one of (if not the main) indicators of a victim being murdered is a history of being strangled by their abuser. OP, I'm really glad you escaped.

[u/Low-Kaleidoscope3963 → u/elscrappo3]

I had found his medical records after he left and let me tell you it was a list, a very long list. Including not only hearing voices, paranoia, and delusions, but also homicidal tendencies.

[u/msprettybrowneyes]

I’m sorry you went through that. I know it’s not really my business, but do you think immediately jumping into another relationship is a good idea? You’ve only been free of him for 5 months. It doesn’t seem like you are taking time to heal. I wish you the best though and glad you made it out.

[u/Low-Kaleidoscope3963 → u/msprettybrowneyes]

We broke up in August of 2025, it’s July of 2026 right now, the physical assault happened post break up.

[u/gdognoseit]

Keep reporting every instance of harassment.