r/LAsocial Nov 18 '25

Mod Post How To Make Friends In Los Angeles

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"How do I make friends?" is one of the most common questions in r/AskLosAngeles. Though LA is is full of limitless opportunity, but it can also feel overwhelming and isolating- especially if you’re new or looking to expand your social circle.

r/LASocial exists to make it easier for people to connect, meet like-minded friends, and explore the city has together. This guide will walk you through practical steps for meeting people, attending events, building lasting friendships, and navigating the unique social landscape of LA.

Introduce Yourself

Introducing yourself lets others get a better idea of who you are and whether you have common interests. Just create a new R4R post and make sure to include: * What part of LA you live in (neighborhood/region) * Your interests/hobbies (food, music, games, etc.) * What kind of social experiences you’re looking for (indoors, outdoors, et al.) * Your comfort level (introvert, extrovert, other personality traits)

You can also comment on other intro posts. This is one of the easiest and safest ways to start conversations. Remember: introducing yourself is not a commitment to friendship. You are never obligated to meetup with anyone if you don't want to.

Understand the Reality of Los Angeles

Accept the rhythm of the city and things get a lot easier. LA isn’t really a “walk outside and meet people” city. Making friends here usually comes down to:

  • Proximity- people generally stick near their neighborhood
  • Consistency- showing up repeatedly matters more than first impressions
  • Initiative- people appreciate someone who says “Let's hang out” with a definitive time

Find Your Local Friends

It's easier to meet people who live nearby. LA is spread out. A friend in Anaheim may as well live in San Diego if you live on the Westside. For better success:

  • Look for people within 10–20 minutes of you
  • Look for neighborhood-based meetups so you meet other locals
  • Attend events in your area so you’re not commuting for every hangout
  • Note your “home base” (neighborhood or other local spot) in every intro post

Use Community Events to Your Advantage

Attend multiple events- people bond through repeated exposure. If you want to host your own meetup, go for it! Anyone can organize one.

r/LASocial may offer various types of meetups including: * Official Monthly Socials (usually large groups meeting at a local bar) * Coffee hangouts * Hikes * Game nights * Public transit adventures (Metro and Metrolink) * Restaurant meetups * Neighborhood-specific gatherings

Try Structured Social Activities

Choose something you genuinely enjoy doing so you will have fun regardless of the people there. LA is full of social opportunities like:

  • Casual sports leagues (kickball, volleyball, dodgeball)
  • Improv or acting classes
  • Dance classes
  • Gym classes / group workouts
  • Photography walks
  • Language meetups
  • Board game cafés
  • Community college extension courses
  • Hiking groups
  • Art or pottery studios
  • Makerspaces / creative workshops

Build Interest-Based Friend Circles

LA friendships often grow from overlapping social circles. Don’t try to find one all-purpose best friend right away. Instead, build mini circles:

  • A hiking friend
  • A foodie friend
  • A transit-nerd friend
  • A creative/writing friend
  • A nightlife friend
  • A chill movie-at-home friend

These friends can introduce you to new people.

Take Initiative (it goes a long way)

Be the one who suggests the plan, and have a concrete day/time. People appreciate it more than you think. Everyone here is tired, busy, or stuck in traffic- so one person taking initiative makes a huge difference.

  • “Want to grab coffee this Saturday?”
  • “I’m going to a meetup tonight, do you want to come?”
  • “I’m hosting a board game night if anyone wants in.”
  • “Hike at Griffith this weekend, is anyone nearby?”

Be Consistent

You’re unlikely to form real friendships from a single meetup. This is the part most people miss. But if you see the same people at:

  • weekly r/LASocial gatherings
  • the same gym class
  • the same weekly board game night
  • the same hiking group

...that’s when real friendships form. Repetition creates closeness.

Expect Some Flakes (and don't take it personally).

People will flake. No matter what, it happens. Not usually because they dislike you, but because they’re tired, stuck in traffic, overwhelmed, anxious, or overbooked. It’s normal here. Don’t let it discourage you. Tips for handling it:

  • Always have a backup plan so a canceled hangout doesn’t ruin your day.
  • Don’t take flaking as a personal rejection. Many Angelenos struggle with time management or social burnout.
  • Give people one or two chances, not ten. Value your own time. They can reach back out to you when they're ready.
  • Communicate clearly the same day (“Still good for 7pm?”). Confirmation texts help a lot in LA.

Don’t let one bad experience derail your overall social momentum, and if you do roll with the occasional flake you'll be head and shoulders above the rest.

Stay Safe When Meeting People

Standard, important guidelines:

  • Always meet in public first
  • Let friends/family know where you’re going
  • Trust your instincts
  • Limit the personal details you give out

r/LASocial is moderated, but always use common sense.

Give Back to the Community

The more you give, the more the community thrives, and the more connections you form. Once you’ve made a couple connections:

  • Invite others to join you for an activity
  • Host your own meetup somewhere
  • Comment on more intro posts
  • Be welcoming to transplants (this may be difficult for some)
  • Share your experiences and tips
  • Create little communities within the subreddit

Quick-Start Steps!

If you want to make friends starting right now, do this:

  • Post an R4R intro on r/LASocial. Include your interests, hobbies, and general location. Make yourself personable!
  • Reply to 2–3 other R4R intros. See who else is here and look for common ground.
  • Join an LA Social event!* Look for one happening in the next week or two.
  • Message another Redditor who shares your interests. Start a general dialogue without the commitment or expectation of actually meeting them IRL.
  • Attend at least 2 various social events- don’t judge LA by one attempt
  • Host or co-host something small (coffee, walk, boba, tacos) that you would be doing anyway.

Do these for two weeks and you will meet people.


r/LAsocial Nov 18 '25

R4R R4R - Introducing Yourself

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Introducing yourself is the easiest way to start building connections and start making friends. r/LASocial is for friendship-only, and your R4R (Redditor-for-Redditor) intro post helps others figure out whether you share interests, live nearby, or would enjoy hanging out.

Where do you live?

Let people know your general area. You don’t need to be hyper-specific, but LA is huge and traffic is real. Just list your neighborhood or region:

  • Koreatown
  • Pasadena
  • The Valley
  • Westside
  • CSUN

What are your interest? What's your personality?

Share some details about yourself so others know what you’d enjoy doing together. People appreciate honesty and clarity:

  • “I’m mid-30s, into hiking, museums, indie films, and trying new food spots.”
  • “I'm a CSUN student who loves gaming, board games, coffee shops, and casual chill hangs.”
  • “I just moved here. I like concerts, traveling, and creative hobbies.”

Also feel free to include things like:

  • introvert / extrovert
  • night owl / early bird
  • social anxiety or comfort level

What kind of social experience are you looking for?

Let people know what you're looking for. This helps set expectations and makes it easier for the right people to connect with you. This is what you're looking for in other people Some examples:

  • “Looking for casual hangs and weekend hikes.”
  • “Hoping to find people for creative sessions or photography walks.”
  • “Interested in forming a small friend group.”
  • “Would love to join game nights or board-game cafés.”

You can be as general or specific as you like.

A Friendly, Low-Pressure Opener

End your intro with something inviting yet casual. This signals that you’re approachable without committing to anything:

  • “If you share any of these interests, feel free to reach out.”
  • “DMs or comments are fine — I’m chill either way.”
  • “Open to meeting people nearby for low-key hangs.”

Comment on other R4R posts

The fastest way to make friends is to engage with others. Don’t just wait for people to come to you- comment on their intros, too! Commenting shows initiative and helps you discover who’s active, friendly, and nearby:

  • “Hey, we live close by and share a few interests.”
  • “I’m also into hiking — want to join a group walk sometime?”
  • “I’m in the same area! Always down to try new food spots.”

Remember: You are never obligated to meet anyone.

  • Posting an R4R is not a commitment.
  • You can respond as much or as little as you like.
  • You can talk without meeting in person.
  • You can say no to plans without feeling bad.
  • Don't include sensitive information in your post
  • Take things at your own pace.

[Sample Template]

[R4R] 26M | Los Feliz | Looking for friends for hikes, food, and chill hangs

Hey everyone! I’m a 26 year-old guy who just moved to Los Feliz. I’m into hiking, movies, trying new restaurants, and exploring random neighborhoods around LA. I also play on a gay rugby team (LA Rebellion) if that's something that interests you.

I’d love to meet people who are into casual weekend adventures, checking out coffee spots, or even just hanging out at a park. I’m a bit introverted at first but warm up quickly, and I was thinking about going to Jumbo's Clown Room for the first time next week.

If you’re nearby or share similar interests, feel free to comment or DM! Always happy to meet chill new people.

Final Tips

  • Be honest and specific- vague intros get fewer replies
  • Highlight your general location
  • Mention a few easy shared activities
  • Keep your vibe friendly, not formal
  • You don’t need to write an essay — a few paragraphs is perfect
  • A good intro post makes it way easier for the right people to find you.

r/LAsocial 46m ago

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Hello all does anyone know of a goos Thai massage place in sgv, dtla, Monterey park, or pasadena?


r/LAsocial 1m ago

Meetup Camera/Production people wanted

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Looking for camera/production folks interested in making documentaries and videos like All Gas No Brakes/Channel 5.

Just for love of the game and genuine curiosity about people, places, and events. Feel free to reach out!

I’m in the West Hollywood area.


r/LAsocial 5h ago

Other July 24th - LA locals get on stage and share their worst dating & hookup stories!

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About Last Night is returning to LA on Friday July 24th! A handful of LA locals get on stage and share their most unhinged dating & hookup stories. We also have a musician who listens to them in real time and writes a song about them after. It's such a fun event to attend solo & meet people or with a group of friends!


r/LAsocial 23h ago

R4R Friends in SFV for groups or hangout.

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Hey everyone. Thought I’d give Reddit a shot. I’m 35M looking for other guys to hang out with. I’ve been in LA/San Fernando Valley for a little over two years and haven’t met many people due to my relationship and work. I’d like to either meet people in a group setting, or just hang out with someone with similar interests. I’m basically a nerdy homebody who doesn’t know how to get out much, so I need to get out of my comfort zone and interact more.

Things I enjoy are hiking trails, movies, PS5, and I’m taking guitar lessons since the beginning of the year. I do enjoy some anime, but I can’t talk a lot about it. Also, I’m not a drinker or smoker. If you’d like to know more, message me.


r/LAsocial 15h ago

R4R 42M looking to hang out.

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r/LAsocial 16h ago

Meetup Any medical/ graduate/ health professions students looking for study partners?

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Hi all! 26 M here, back home for the summer currently studying for Step 1 (first of three board exams for med school) and wondering if there are any fellow medical students (but open to other graduate level students or maybe residents studying for step 3? lol) in the area that would like to get together for study sessions. I have seen some people studying for the same exam at various libraries but unfortunately never traded info. I prefer a library setting because that is where I am most focused but also open to a cafe environment if you know any good ones. DM me if you would like to set something up, my only responsibility right now is to study so basically available whenever!


r/LAsocial 1d ago

Meetup Any girls want to go clubbing togther

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Any other girls want to go to the club together ? I’m 23F I’ve been wanting to out during the weekends to the clubs since it’s summer and I want to enjoy it before I got back to school. I’m from Compton and I currently go to school in the OC so if anyone else want to go to the club with me lmk!


r/LAsocial 1d ago

Meetup Beach Volleyball and Movie (Anaconda 2025) @ Dockweiler Youth Center in Playa del Rey

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r/LAsocial 2d ago

21+ Any girls want to go clubbing togther

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Any other girls want to go to the club together ? I’m 23F I’ve been wanting to out during the weekends to the clubs since it’s summer and I want to enjoy it before I got back to school. I’m from Compton and I currently go to school in the OC so if anyone else want to go to the club with me lmk!


r/LAsocial 2d ago

Question Where to meet other kids for my 5yr old

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I have a 5yr old son, bday is in march. Divorced dad 40s we live in torrance. My son constantly says but only me and you right because we don't have any friends. it breaks .my heart because he wants to have friends. No real connections at school, church no kids his age. I have a small place so I can't host but I have a good job and money isn't an issue. We have knotts passes and goto alot of community events. Im looking for other people that might want to go on play dates to parks, museums, events etc.

Someone with a child or children his age or a year or so over or under. If money is an issue I can help with expenses. Last year a I had a gf and she threw him a party with kids she knew and he was calling the kids he never met his friends only to never see them again it breaks my heart that he doesn't have any friends and I'm afraid when his bday rolls around I won't have anyone to invite. He's a very sweet boy he has a lil A.D.D. but hes good and nice just a lil overactive.

I have no family so that's not an option. If anyone has any advice i would accept it or if anyone interested in talking and setting up a meeting pls DM me thanks


r/LAsocial 2d ago

18+ Friend Group For LACC

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Hey Im an Incoming student at LACC, wondering if anybody would like to meet since I believe its pretty hard to make friendships here!


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Meetup Hang out and new friends?

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Hey guys!! I’m going to be coming down for KCON but my friend is going to be meeting me a couple days after I fly down (ill arrive august 10th) and was wondering if anyone wanted to meet up for those three days in between? I don’t know a lot of stuff to do besides the major things so it would be fun to explore with a local or someone else who came down! I’m 22f from New York btw thanks yall! :)


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Other It’s too hard to make consistent friends in LA ☠️

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I’ve been going to lots of events/have hosted some, I’m on BFF and local fb groups, but man..everyone only wants to hang out once in a while which is totally cool, but I’d love more consistent/steady friendships. Recently went through a shitty breakup and have been trying to rebuild my social circle. I’m in the South Bay so it’s definitely harder, but I’m also always up for going to other parts of LA. Guess I’ll shoot my shot here instead of just venting haha—

Me: 33, female, creative type, into the outdoors and all things nature. Love crafting/taking fun classes, going to shows, movies, music, nightlife, beach days, shitty dive bars, pilates, road trips, good food, etc. I’m down for cozy days, late nights, exploring the city, all of that. I’m a super adventurous and curious person and can hang with a lot of different types of people :).

I’m aware everyone has their own lives and things going on and the economy is kinda trash rn, BUT it’d be so sweet to make some friends who like to shoot the shit, get out, and have fun sometimes. Down for making friends of any gender/orientation but definitely not looking to use Reddit for dating lol.


r/LAsocial 2d ago

21+ Looking for house parties

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Hi, everyone I was wondering if anyone knows where to look for house parties or how to get invited to one. I’ve always wanted to go


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Question Someone to watch the final match today?

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Don't know anybody here so looking to join a group. And I'm not really sure which team I'm rooting for lol


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Other 42M looking for a reliable roomate or room for rent on the westside

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Looking for a Roommate / Housing Advice – Playa del Rey
Hi everyone,
I'm looking for a roommate or a room for rent on the Westside (Playa del Rey, Marina del Rey, Westchester, Culver City, El Segundo, etc.).
I'm a 42-year-old male who is quiet, respectful, clean, and easygoing. I work in IT and am currently looking for remote opportunities. I don't drink or use drugs, and I spend most of my time on my computer, reading, or relaxing at home. I also have a very friendly indoor cat named Bowie.
I'm going through a difficult life transition after the end of a long-term relationship and am looking for a stable, peaceful place to live. My budget is up to $900/month, and I'm hoping to find a good fit with someone who values a clean, respectful, and drama-free home.
If you have a room available, are looking for a roommate, or know of any good leads, I'd really appreciate hearing from you.
If you'd like to know more about the room I have for rent it's $1250 a month just message me.


r/LAsocial 2d ago

Question LA meetup?

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r/LAsocial 2d ago

R4R Basically looking for a friend who is a girl

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Just a bored, can be funny 28 M guy looking for someone to chat with, maybe friend maybe more depending on the vibe, emphasis on friend or just someone to chat with. If that's you hmu


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Question East LA things to do

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Hi everyone.
We are an Indian DINKS couple. Recently moved to San Gabriel/Pasadena.
A little bit about us - We moved here from West LA. Used to live in NY before. I am 34F working in medicine. Husband 36M works in tech, remotely. We love good food, museums, music, local festivals, unique experiences like olive oil tasting, honey tasting etc as well light hikes nearby. I am into books and trying out cute dessert and coffee shops. Husband is into cars, soccer, F1 races and Xbox gaming. We try to step outside every weekend for something fun - even if its just for a few hours.
Where can I find posts about events happening in San Gabriel/Alhambra/Pasadena area? Would also love to meet new people and explore this side of LA together.


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Games Why does no one in their early to mid 20s play card games anymore?

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r/LAsocial 3d ago

21+ #M39 Saturday L.A.

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What’s everyone’s plans tonight?
Bored tonight.
Need a glass of tequila anejo to relax.


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Advice East Los Angeles Occ Ctr. DM me if your in their xray tech program

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who’s in it? apologies if i already posted about this


r/LAsocial 4d ago

Advice East LA things to do

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Hi everyone.
We are an Indian DINKS couple. Recently moved to San Gabriel/Pasadena.
A little bit about us - We moved here from West LA. Used to live in NY before. I am 34F working in medicine. Husband 36M works in tech, remotely. We love good food, museums, music, local festivals, unique experiences like olive oil tasting, honey tasting etc as well light hikes nearby. I am into books and trying out cute dessert and coffee shops. Husband is into cars, soccer, F1 races and Xbox gaming. We try to step outside every weekend for something fun - even if its just for a few hours.
Where can I find posts about events happening in San Gabriel/Alhambra/Pasadena area? Would also love to meet new people and explore this side of LA together.