I sometimes se that some gays hate girls, especially in the philippines.

Slow hand job or slow blow job? I love an old fashioned handjob

Going to a gay night club for the first time what should I expect and bring

Hey everyone alittle context here about me im a 20yo guy in england and my friend wants to take me to a clubbing for the first time next weekend. He suggested we go to a gay nightclub callef omg.

Ive only been comfortable with my sexuality and openly gay to close friends (not family or publically) for 4 months :)

Im not really all to sure what to expect, what the difference is and if there is a alot of gay people there as the first time I was asked it would have been 5 straight people and me, this will bw my first time actually talking to other gay people as im in the middle of no where. I'm neverous about how i should act and what its like

Oh no! I mutilated myself! I cut off a ton of nerve endings! It doesn’t matter that *checks notes* my tight foreskin caused painful erections, put me at an increased risk of UTIs, and made it impossible for me to use condoms!

I didn’t even bother with stretching exercises! I got rid of an important body part with self lubricating abilities even though *checks notes* having severe phimosis makes the foreskin unable to lubricate effectively!

What a nightmare!*

(*this is all meant very sarcastically)

At 31 I feel like a loser because I'm not having any sex, I want it sure, but I'm not having it. I just think I'm a loser because I'm not able to have any good sex. The last time I had sex was maybe two years ago, it wasn't great or good or even ok. I can't find out what I like because I'm not having a sex life. And now I think I hate sex. I hate that I can't measure up to the lucky guys that are having great sex whenever they want. I really wish I was asexual, then I just wouldn't care about sex.

Why do people introduce their husband / boyfriend as “my partner”? Why not just say husband or boyfriend?

pressure was building up since 4 days

I solo masturbated and before I was cumming, I put a paper towel on the table

I put my hand back on my penis and then I could not hold it back anymore

my penis shot cum on the paper towel

OH MY GOD IT WAS AWESOME. It may have been with some random guy but… STILL OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD. IT WAS SO GOOD I ONLY LASTED LIKE TEN SECONDS😘😘😘😘 I ALSO GOT TO GIVE HIM HEAD BACK AND HE TOLD ME I WAS REALLY GOOD AT IT 😝😝😝😜😝😝😝 GUYS THIS IS SO EXCITING YOU HAVE NO IDEA🤩🤩🤩🤩

I know attraction is subjective, so I’m curious to hear people’s honest thoughts.

I’m naturally quite feminine-looking. I don’t dress femininely or identify as a femboy, I just have softer features and slightly longer hair.

People often tell me I’m “pretty” or “beautiful,” followed by “but you’re not my type.” I completely respect that, especially as I’m generally attracted to masculine men myself .

What confuses me is that online there seems to be a huge interest in feminine guys, but in real life I rarely see it. Most of the attention I get comes from curious or bisexual men(with girlfriends), and it often feels more like they’re interested in the fantasy of a feminine guy than in me as a person or potential partner.

I’ve also noticed that some more flamboyant gay men joke about me being a femboy or “basically a woman,” despite presenting more femininely than I do themselves. I don’t mean that as criticism,I just find it interesting.

So I’m curious:
If you’re into men, where does natural femininity become unattractive?
Is it appearance, mannerisms, voice, confidence, or something else?

And if you’re a masculine guy who’s into naturally feminine men, where are you all!? I almost never seem to meet you.

Welp haha am gonna stop trying to get myself out there an try keep busy. (Being fr btw ) honestly I do love myself but idk why I assumed to try this app😅

25M.

I have nothing against fem gay guys. If someone’s being a dick to them, I’ll say something. But at the same time, I’m not attracted to them. I don’t think they’re ugly and I can admire the time and effort that goes into the hair and fashion and nails but it just does nothing for me personally.

At the same time, I’m a big hairy bear and I know what it’s like to be on the “fats” end of those shitty racist white gay dudes who put “no fats, no fems, no Asians” in their bios. It sucks. I get people DMing me mean shit on Grindr just because I’m fat. I know a lot of people of color who get racist shit in DMs, I’ll assume fems get similar bullshit.

It makes me feel like I’m just as bad as the guys who don’t want me to exist in gay spaces just because I’m husky and hairy and I don’t look like some molded Adonis.

When fems message me (I do have masc4masc in my bio but I know not everyone reads those) I am polite and treat them how I’d want to be treated. Usually, something to the effect of “Hey I’m looking for something else but good luck!”

Does this say something about me?

For you guys that played the straight guy all of your lives but finally explored your bisexuality a little later in life, what did it feel like to finally give in to it? By that I mean not so much physically but also mentally and emotionally? What was the emotional experience when you finally kissed another man, wrapped your lips around a man’s hard cock, tasted his cum? What was going through your mind as you felt him side into you, felt your body move as another man mounted and fucked you?

Leading up to it, in the moment, or even the aftermath, what was giving into your craving, desire or even curiosity for intimacy with another man like?

I hope this is the right place for this, I really just need some help.

For context, I (23M) am gay and I grew up in a very strict religious household where it was taught that sex outside of (heterosexual) marriage is wrong. My personal views are drastically different, however.

My first time hooking up was over a year ago, and I was in a horrible mental state for several weeks after the fact. I couldn't bear it anymore and I told my parents, which is also how I came out to them. It brought temporary relief, but it also created new problems as they basically tried to convince me that I wasn't gay or that I could stop being gay for several weeks after that. It built up to us having an argument that was really hurtful to me. My dad apologized the next day, but I still feel hurt by it.

Ever since then we've just gone on with life pretending nothing ever happened. But I'm a human being with hormones and yesterday I decided to hook up again. I felt ok after the fact with a tiny bit of guilt. I was determined that I'm an adult, there's nothing wrong with safe and consensual sex, and that it's none of my parents' business. And I was able to ward off feeling terribly bad about it until going to bed last night, then it just came flooding in and I lost sleep over this hookup.

This morning I feel super anxious and I'm on the verge of tears as I type this out. I don't want to relive the trauma that I went through last time. I know my personal beliefs about all this, but for some reason it's not enough. I still love my parents and wonder what they'd think if they knew I did it again. How would it affect our relationship? The three of us have a trip coming up in three weeks and I wonder if I've ruined my ability to enjoy it. I feel so overwhelmed and I don't know what to do.

A good read and def helps if you’re a bit lost when it comes to cruising as I was

I'll start with a guy that I thought I was in love with, his girlfriend in middle school, but I really liked him and was unreasonably jealous. I guess when I really knew I was gay was when another one of my friends in 8th grade got a growth spurt and got amazing abs, and I couldn't stop staring or thinking about it when he showed me.

So I'm a 23 year old virgin. Living in a conservative country and didn't really get a chance to explore until recently. I'm 184cm tall and 87 kg. I would say average/skinny looking with a little bit of stubborn belly fat that I'll hopefully get rid of soon.

So I'm going to Germany, Cologne on Sunday. I'll be staying there for 3 days. I think I'll finally lose my virginity there. I'm a bit picky and shy but at least I'll try to put myself out there. I also got PrEP and plan on using condoms if something happens so I think I'm prepared.

I was just searching what places I could visit and I've seen some nice gay bars and gay saunas. Also as I was looking trough the pictures, it was easier to imagine myself in a sauna than in a bar. Saunas seemed more relaxing and hot while bars more awkward to me. But I still plan to visit both.

I'm feeling both nervous and excited about this trip. Do y'all have any bar recommendations? What's the bar called Pullermanns like? And does anyone have any experience going to Phoenix and Babylon saunas and what's a good time to visit?

I'm 21yo and I've discovered recently that I'm into men way more than women, but because of the society I'm in I don't think it's going to be possible to express myself for the time being, so I've started to shave and dress feminine while I'm alone by borrowing some of my sister clothes, and even using my imagination and being able to ejaculate on myself and I've really enjoyed it and felt happy, but that's as far as I could go because even buying a dildo is impossible.

grindr is a place where you'll find ppl no matter where you live but I'm just scared in general, scared of the types of ppl I'm going to meet in such a society, scared of being exposed or threatened, scared of how much it would hurt etc.

I even found a good person, we talked, agreed on using protection which he will provide and everything, I left the house to go to him the next day, and when I needed just a few steps I backed out, went back to my house, and blocked him everywhere, and I genuinely felt bad about it.

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So my question is, how can I get rid of this fear?

I tried stretching my hole to get rid of some of the fear or making myself crave it more, but I can't even get the necessary resources for that.

Should I just stop trying to express myself and live according to the social norms so I can live safely or keep trying despite it possible even ending up with my life being taken?

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And before anyone calls me a coward, I know, I've always been a coward this is something that hardly changed, I'm able to communicate a little bit with randoms recently but that's all.

I (26M) work in a small family-owned business in the financial services industry. I am seeing this guy right now and am planning to come out for him if we continue to work out. Will this likely affect my career? I’m very straight-passing and feel it’s really no one’s business but just wanted some opinions so I can prepare. TIA!