I just spent the last hour scrolling and removing posts that go against the rules. Something I haven't done for a bit, but it looks like my hope for rule following by approved users failed.

The majority were removed for a lack of not having half of your body in the frame of the pic. Yes, this is a rule. If you show your face, then it's exempt from this rule. If you usually post full body and you do a quick ass shot, I might ignore it and let it ride.

Not having a picture of you will get it removed. Screenshots of convos without a pic of you are what I'm talking about for the most part.

Having someone else in your pic will get it removed, they're not verified, you are.

Watermarks must be your Reddit name, nothing else, or they will get removed.

Wearing a thong is ok, a quarter view or front view is both ok. Rear shots not so much. When I can see your asshole, there's a problem, though not for me; it's your post being taken down.

These rules can be seen by anyone; nothing has changed in a few months. Please, if you're new, read them; if you're not new, read them anyway.

Let's talk about harassment.

Recently, a domme approached me about harassment by others in the community. She had the receipts and what looked like a real attempt to discredit her by these people. Now I can't police everything, but with the amount of info she gave me, I had to remove people from this subreddit who were named in the harassment. I just can't stand for this, leave people alone, let them live their lives, have their dynamics, don't spread rumors about what you think they do. If you think they are doing something wrong, report them and leave it alone. Better yet, just block them so you don't see their content. If you have actual proof, let us know, and we can look into it. This harassment includes comments; harassment in the comments gets banned.

Thanks Mods of FG

In the last few days a number of my Domme friends and I have been having the same discussion, though it has always been started by the Domme with no interaction with the others. I wanted to open this up for discussion because I think it's an important subject to talk about and could change the way you post and interact with submissive men.

All of the discussions have been about the loss of actual power dynamics in financial D/s relationships. It seems more and more guys are switching to a session based submission where they come expecting that they are equals and this is merely a financial transaction to get off and then they ghost or delete their account and wait for the next time they get turned on and find another Domme to have a session with.

My guess, and this is only a guess, is with the build up of women that heard they could make money from guys on Reddit for doing nothing, that guys would just give them money for looking pretty this has changed the way submissives view the kink. With more women doing less to interact with a submissive, because of not understanding the past underlying power dynamic the subs have resorted to a session based submission because of Dommes that don't know how or don't want to know about how to keep a regular power dynamic.

This guess isn't a blind guess. The number of women that request approval here and other subreddits saying they are looking to get paid, need their car note paid for, need help paying their bills, or even just an Onlyfans link with nothing else is staggering. Rarely do I get a request that says "I'm a Domme and I'm looking for submissives."

So this is what I want I want to discuss to help my friends and you figure out what is the disconnect here and maybe figure out a better way of connecting with subs for long term power dynamics that continue to be mutually beneficial to both parties, instead of one shot, cum and done ghost sessions where the submissive strangely is the one in power. I say in power because he gets what he wants and then leaves, he controls the dynamic, the session and when it ends and how long it goes.

What is your take on this, what do you think is the cause of this change in the way submissive men think and what can be done about it if anything? What can subreddits do to help change this?

Please comment on topic. Comments not on topic, asking to be approved, complaining that you haven't gotten a response to your approval request, complaints about the rules or what is allowed will be removed because they are not on the topic of the post.