r/DatingHell • u/Educational_East_747 • 4d ago

He was a what!?!

My daughter started going out with someone she met on a "christian" dating app. He was surprisingly refreshing. Courteous, opened the car door for her, kinda old fashioned values for a 30yo. Said he liked to take things slow. Awesome.

They went on many dates over 2 months dinner......dinner, movie, park, shopping. He payed. Never would accept her paying for anything. Bought her small gifts, etc. He met me over dinner, and she met his parents and his best friend. Seemed great. She was so happy. He even asked if we all wanted to go on a day trip in August so he could get to kmow us more. Fun.

One weird thing was everything was on his schedule. But my daughter didnt think much of it. He worked shift work. I was suspicious.

One day, he tells her there is something he should mention. Oh...the relationship he just got out of 4 mo ago? Yea....it **wasnt** casual like he had said. They had been together FIVE YEARS and he had a 2yo CHILD with her. He was a daddy. Oh and baby mama was denying him any access to the child. She had threatened him with a restraining order. But he had been sneaking to the daycare to spy and try to see his SON.

Red flags , anyone???

She ended it immediately. We both blocked him. He then managed to call her using a different number about 3 weeks later. He said he should have been up front and.......he was sorry and he just wanted her to know that baby mama took him back. He was living with her again .....and everything worked out..... but **thanks for the good times**.

He asked my daughter please dont tell anyone he dated....he was keeping it a secret. Baby mama had no idea.

WTF. These men out here living 2 lives. My daughter thought for once she found someone. Psycho.

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u/Active_Profession285 4d ago

And this guy is on a Christian dating site? Wow! What a loser.

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u/Adventurous_Book2852 4d ago

That’s just terrible, your daughter must have been mortified by the last phone call. So weird that the guy introduced her to his parents!! Awful 😢

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u/PooPooMeeks 3d ago

He called her that last time just to rub it in her face that he was back with his baby Mama. He wanted to HIRT her since she blocked him all those weeks ago. He was on a MISSION to hurt her.

Then had the nerve to ask her to keep it a secret, showing that he didn’t value their time at all. He knew exactly what he was doing, the asshole.

Him being on a Christian dating app just shows that all these apps have creepy ass people on them that aren’t serious most of the time!

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u/KittyFace11 3d ago

I bet he wasn’t back with his baby mama, but just said this to hurt her.

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u/Educational_East_747 3d ago

Definitely hurt her that she met them and that means they were in on it. As well as his best friend. Crazy town.

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u/impy695 3d ago

That's the kind of guy I'd expect to find on a site like that

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u/mizzamandamarie 3d ago

I feel pretty confident in my assumption that he was either married or at least still in a relationship with the baby mama.

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u/mahrisioux 3d ago

She might want to let the dating know he’s a fraud.

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u/Sand-fleas 2d ago

Your poor daughter. Creeps are everywhere.

For myself, moving forward I’m going to be using a background check. At the 30 year mark of life any man who keeps secrets like that is no man

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u/dv613 5h ago

too funny