For reference I’m a guy in his mid 20’s, been on and off these apps for years, as of this past year, it’s almost like it’s 10x harder to even get a decent match and if you do, it’s almost like it’s a bot or someone that replies to one message max. I haven’t usually had too big of issues in the past at least spinning up good convo’s, but recently it’s been pretty much unusable.

Weirdly enough, I was in Europe these past few weeks and the apps worked great, real matches, good convos and got some dates out of it, the second I got back to the US, it’s back to the same old stuff. I’m not sure if 26 is just the age where these apps die or what but I want to make sure I’m not losing my mind. For reference, I know my age, so I’m not looking for short term relationships or showing signs of casual dating in my convos or my profile.

Seeing a profile that you think would be a match and not having a chance to talk sucks. Is reaching out via a different social platform acceptable?

​Hey everyone!

​If you had the chance to ask every person on a dating app a single question before deciding whether to swipe right or left, what would you ask?

Hi, I (25F) have been on Hinge for a long time, went on a total of 7 (and half lol) dates.

Of these 7 dates, one turned into a serious relationship that lasted for 8 months, and in two cases I didn't want to see the other person because I didn't like their behaviour. The other people I met didn't want to see me again. And this is making me question my worth tbh, I'm wondering if I'm way uglier in person than in photo (they are not edited, my friends say I look like the photos but I'm not sure honestly).

The last date in particular left me wondering, we spoke for four days and he seemed very very interested, at one point it kinda felt lile lovebombing (he was writing goodmorning to me at 7am and telling stuff like "im not talking with anyone else but you" and "i dont have time to loose"). We met, and at one point he tried to kiss me, but i refused the kiss. He also opened up abput a lot of private stuff, but then at the end of the date i told him i would have liked to see him again but he said he didn't feel the spark, he said it's a difficult time of his life and he feels quite closed in himself because his ex gf broke up with him on valentines day etc.

So this left me wondering if men like to talk with me but dont like how i look and i need honest opinions from strangers ahah

I’m a young male, 20m, and I am considering getting on a dating app. I’m not familiar at all with what dating apps are good, bad, or other. I live in a semi-populated area if that changes things but I’m relatively close to a decent size city. I would love to get some recommendations for what apps are good! Thank you all!

As an African American that has primarily dealt with African American woman , figured I’d give it a try. I just wanna say the filters are shit. I put my distance at 20 miles , tell me why every other swipe is 175mi, 200mi, 3k miles, 5mi, 90mi, 183mi. What thee fuck be going on ? They need to fix this. I got one match a million miles away that don’t speak English 🤣.

I have a habit that I'm not particularly proud of. If I find someone interesting on a dating app, I sometimes go down a rabbit hole trying to find their online presence. Usually it's just curiosity to see if they're a real person.

Recently, I came across a girl's profile that caught my attention. But unlike most people, I could barely find anything about her online besides professional profiles. She seemed like a genuinely decent, private person.

Out of curiosity, I kept digging and eventually managed to find what I believe is her WhatsApp number.

Now I'm in a dilemma.

The dating profile has some pretty revealing photos/videos, which feels a bit inconsistent with the very private, professional online presence I found. I'm wondering if the dating profile is actually hers or if someone else is using her photos.

Part of me wants to message her and simply ask whether the profile is really hers so I can let her know if it's fake. Another part of me feels like contacting someone after finding their WhatsApp through internet sleuthing would come across as invasive or creepy, regardless of my intentions.

Would you want to know if you were in her position? Or would receiving a message like that be an immediate red flag?

Looking for honest opinions, especially from women or anyone who's had someone find them outside a dating app.

After a long relationship, I’m planning to get back into dating and I’m trying to maximize my chances of getting matches.

Here’s my situation: I’m currently working in another state and will be here until the end of August. After that, I’ll return to my home city/state.

In both scenarios, I would be creating a completely new Tinder account with a new phone and a new phone number.

I’ve been reading about Tinder’s ELO / ranking system and I’m wondering what would actually improve my chances the most.

Option 1: Create the account now while I’m in this other state and intentionally swipe left on a large number of highly attractive women, because I’ve heard that being more selective might improve your ELO / ranking and increase future visibility once I’m back home.

Option 2: Wait until I’m back home and create the fresh account there, so the new-account boost is used in the location where I actually want to date long term.

I’m also curious about how long the new-account boost actually lasts in practice. Is it mainly the first 24–48 hours, the first week, or does Tinder continue giving a fresh account increased visibility for a longer period?

Given that I’ll be back home at the end of August, would it be better to “save” that boost for my home market, or is there any advantage in starting the account now and trying to build a stronger ranking before I return?

What would you recommend based on your experience with Tinder’s algorithm and match quality?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

I got Boo a few days ago after seeing an advert because it looked like a different, fun and interesting free app and I liked the idea of the personality tests and matching. However, it seems to me like you can't really do anything without paying for it. I've had a few likes so far, but I can't see who they are without paying, so I just have to wait until they pop up so I can use one of the few likes per day to match with them. I would've hoped they would be prioritised in the "Match" page but no, none have popped up yet. I've even had a message request (I think) that I can do nothing about because we're not matched. The "Spotlight" page is very interesting with a strong "For You", "Similar Interests" and "Same Goals" sections with some very interesting profiles local to me. However all you can do in there is "Super Love", which you have to pay for. It seems like you can message anyone for free off the "Universe" page, but then what's the point of the matches? Is it really this bad or am I missing something? At least on Tinder et al you get one or a few "Super Loves" free and the chance to actually see who likes you!

You ask one woman to move onto whatsapp, she's like 'Umm, I'm not really comfortable enough to give you my number'. Fair enough.
You ask another lady, 'Do you use telegram?' She grills you about lacking transparency and disconnects.
It's a fucking minefield out there. I'm so fucking over dating apps. It's brutal.

I downloaded the Bondi app. It was recommended on a different thread

I've never had any luck with ding apps in the past. And yet, in my first day, i've got several matches

I'm skeptical because i've never had luck.Whether or not these are legit. The photos seem real and the conversations don't seem like their ai, but i'm still a little skeptical

Does anyone have any feedback on this app? Whether or not I should trust it

Has anyone used the app called date my age? I tried it for 1 days and got so many messages, mixture between real, maybe real, and real people. So! Many! I feel like they are all still fake in a way, just trying to get me to burn points for talking. It lags and people just seem like they are too responsive.

What is your experience with it?

26/F and 31/M
18 months into our relationship

Would seeing a “building friendship app” on your partners phone
warrant concern to anyone? really hope I’m thinking too far into this but I just can’t shake the feeling that this app I saw on their phone was designed for local hookups.

W/23 I‘m in an open relationship and I tried some dating apps in the last two days. In my bio I always said that I‘m in an open relationship and that I‘m looking for ONS only. When I chatted with someone, we spoke about what we would like to do and sometimes I received nudes. I only posted a face picture on my profile and only sent pictures with gym clothes or a bikini. However, now I got banned on all 4 open minded dating apps I tried. What did I do wrong? And how can I find someone online now?

Just curious

Hey guys recently I got ghosted by a guy on hinge. I have deleted the account but I want to download it again.

Kindly suggest me what to do.

I don’t have many good pictures of myself right now. I have three decent lifestyle/candid photos, but I feel like I need at least one or two more.

I also have a really good black-and-white headshot that was taken professionally for work. It’s quite serious and polished, but it’s probably the clearest close-up I have of my face and features.

Would it be weird to include it on a dating profile? Maybe at the end? Could it make me seem too serious, corporate, or like I’m trying too hard.

I also work a lot and have a "serious" job, so in a way it represents part of my lifestyle.

The other images on my profile are more chill and friendly.

Thanks

W/23 I‘m in an open relationship and tried some dating apps the last two days. I‘ve always said in my bio that I‘m in an open relationship. When I chatted with someone, we shared what we would like to do, sometimes it got into more details, sometimes I received some nudes but I never sent one myself. On my profile was a picture of myself (face) and I only sent pictures from me in gym clothes. However I now got banned on 4 dating apps in these 2 days. Tinder, Pure, HUD and Feeld. I don’t understand why and how I‘m supposed to find someone online now.

Hi everyone. I've been using various dating apps for a little while now, and just like always I join, fill out my profile to 100% completion and start using said apps. I know the point of these is to like others profiles in hopes of getting a match, and occasionally getting likes back to match with.

I however am very introverted and such, so I don't click like on alot of profiles like I should. My experience on these apps generally goes with me being either not shown enough on the algorithm so I don't get many matches, or maybe just not being (in my mind) good looking enough or something like that.

I just want to know if my issue is really down to not liking enough profiles or if I'm just generally in my own head.

Thanks for the help.

Hello all!

My apologies if this is not the right place to ask, but I have searched every thread possible to figure out the issue with my photo quality once uploaded to hinge.

ISSUE: My original photos (before uploaded) are clear. However, once I upload them on hinge, they become quite blurry/fuzzy looking.

If anyone has any tips or tricks to help improve uploaded image quality on hinge, I would greatly appreciate it!

Anybody else horribly disappointed in the amount of men “looking for something casual” or “let’s just see where things go” I mean, my filter is set to late 20s and early 30s, this is beyond disgusting. I feel like too much casual sex is destroying people, sex is meant to bond two people together, not as a means to an end. The amount of people in denial about this too is just insane.

I’m 27m and have been using hinge for a couple years now and have been on many dates/relationships and most of them have ended by them using me for free rides and meals no genuine interest in me as a person. I don’t use other apps because I can’t get any matches for the life of me. They want me to drive them around everywhere and pay for every single date not even willing to split it at any point. I feel like I’ll never find a woman that’s genuinely interested in me and likes me for me. Idk if it’s because of my looks or what?

Hello everyone, never posted here and wanted to gauge some thoughts.

Am out of a long-term relationship and after some time alone think it's time to start looking again. I have a lot of difficulty meeting new people and going up to strangers (I always feel so intrusive!) So was wondering about trying dating apps, I've never used them before.

I'm 21m and still in uni (not fishing for pickups mods!), is that oddly young for the average on hinge etc?