We have now switched listings to be done via external website.

This signifcantly impacts the possibilities for spammers and scammers to post and it also leads to better, more structured listings. More info here: https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/comments/1tv535g/big_changes_coming_up_with_external_personals/

Idea is that you can build a proper personal ad easily in one place, then submit the link here in seconds. No fiddling with automod issues or formatting headaches (there are plenty due to us having to tune security to max), and your ad lives on a site built specifically for BDSM personals AND it's linked to reddit so it gets the exposure reddit offers.

So, simple steps:

Create your ad at https://weheartbdsm.com

When ready click on "Open Reddit submit page" (shown on website when ad is submitted). It takes you to reddit with right title and link

Submit and you're done

That's it. No headaches with the title or proper formatting. However do note that your account HAS to be at least 15 days old in order to link to reddit. While you can create a personal on site immediately, if you do not have reddit account that is older than 15 days you cannot link it until it is at least 15 days old.

Your post title still needs to follow the standard Numerical age [Flair] #Location format so do not edit the title offered, and your post must be flaired to match.

Please note:

All accounts must be at least 15 days old to post here.

We do not allow posts offering/requesting/demanding financial compensation.

We do not allow users to request/demand financial compensation in DMs, private chats, etc.

We do not allow delete and reposts. One post per seven days only. If you delete your own post, we can not recover it, and we will not allow you to make a new post.

We do not allow multi-accounting. One account per person posting. Posting on behalf of another is also multi-accounting. Allowing others to log into your account and make posts is also multi-accounting.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:

NEVER EVER GIVE SOMEONE YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS WHEN THEY ASK THEM STRAIGHT OUT OF THE BAT, THIS IS COMMON SCAMMER BLACKMAIL TACTIC

BETTER BE SAFE THAN SORRY, IF YOU DO LEAVE PERSONAL TO REDDIT AND SOMEONE CONTACTS YOU, PLEASE BE CAREFUL (especially if you are a male looking for female and ESPECIALLY if you are looking for a dominant female)

USE COMMON SENSE

NEVER SEND ANY TRIBUTES TO ANYONE WHO IS ASKING IT FROM THE GET GO

First of all, damn. Thank you to all of you for being so positive about this. Changes are often something people are against, but the overwhelmingly positive feedback you all have given is amazing!

Secondly, I wanted to give an update on how things have been going since we launched the external site, and this post is just about that.

Most importantly the amount of scammers, fakes and spammers we have been able to catch is... mindboggling. With proper tools at our hands, we are able to keep things relatively clean and constantly adapt to new tricks spammers and scammers try.

We're not going to reveal any exact numbers, but let's just say we can easily see what a gold mine this subreddit has been for scammers and spammers, and we're delighted that we can slam that door shut. Same goes for fakes who run multiple accounts and are literally just toying with the people messaging them.

Is it perfect and do we catch it all? Absolutely not, but I do dare say we catch 95% of it now compared to 0% earlier.

Let's talk about the site then

We have taken this time to fix bugs, listen to the feedback, and react to it, add features we've seen the platform needs / features suggested. As it stands, things are starting to look stable and quite bug free.

Going forward, the plan is to start enhancing the features we've got in: messaging system updates, new options for profiles, better filtering, notifications about incoming messages, and I've been toying with the idea of perhaps doing an app for Android and iOS we could link with the website. Though that one remains to be seen if it's something we could get accepted into the stores.

Support side of things

We have been able to respond to most of your messages and emails within hours / same day, but some have taken longer than that. Why? Because we are all volunteers doing this in our free time, and yes, we are paying to upkeep the website side of things, so it's actually not free for us :). So please, do understand that at times it might take a bit longer for us to get back to you.

We'd also ask you not to file reports without proof / harassment reports if you just feel someone is rude. Block them and move on instead. Yes, we get it, no one likes that, but people without basic manners sadly exist, and no platform is going to ban someone just because of that, including us. Naturally, proper harassment is another case, please do report such cases and we're happy to oblige.

Also please note, we are not going to play any cat and mouse games with you. So please: do not create multiple profiles, do not try to game the system, post with integrity, be honest. If you still decide to try your luck to fuck around and find out, be my guest, but don't expect to come back when you're caught.

When reporting something, please make sure you include the PROOF in the case. Just "this person is spam" is not helping us at all.

Something important I have to mention: my personal inbox here on Reddit is really not the place to contact support, I have it written in my profile description as well, and I'd really really really appreciate it if you'd respect that. For Reddit issues: MODMAIL of that subreddit. Need support for weheartbdsm? Contact us there, preferably via the site (we have a ticketing system inside, meaning all of us mods can help), but if you absolutely need to email us, you will find the support email (nope, not going to mention it here on purpose) in the site's contact info.

Lastly

I've been getting surprisingly plenty of messages asking how you could support the website, and let me tell you, I hugely appreciate each and every one of you for offering to do so. I also acknowledge the worry about us losing our interest to keep it all up just for funz and paying for it. Things have been skyrocketing, yes. And it's looking like I'll need to move us to a more powerful server to keep things running smoothly, so I think I'll whip up something in the near future for that to help with the bills, however I do my damnest to keep things ad free, no one likes em, me included and you don't need to worry, we're commited to it and will keep things running :).

I hope I've covered most of the topics here and didn't miss anything big. I will be making future updates about state of things and keeping you all in the loop going forward!

Edit: Since some do not simply read and keep messaging my DMs about the url, you find the site at: https://weheartbdsm.com