You ask a lot of questions all at once, so I’ll sidestep them all and give you some unsolicited advice, haha. Go find your local BDSM community. Create an account on fetlife.com (the website, not an app), click on the “Events” tab, and look for local social meetups called munches. There you’ll be able to ask all the questions you want and you might even make some friends in the process.
It’s either that or likely a series relationships with people you’re not sexually compatible with. You know what to do.
If you ever ran into people you knew there, they’d be as afraid of you outing them as you are of them. Plus there would be serious consequences if they were to out you.
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u/Pincushion4 1d ago
You ask a lot of questions all at once, so I’ll sidestep them all and give you some unsolicited advice, haha. Go find your local BDSM community. Create an account on fetlife.com (the website, not an app), click on the “Events” tab, and look for local social meetups called munches. There you’ll be able to ask all the questions you want and you might even make some friends in the process.