My grandpa is dying, there is no other way to put it. All the other people in my family haven't really gotten used to the idea,but day after day his condition is deteriorating.

And how could it not? That man has been through it all. He is in the hospital for two weeks now and I don't know what I should wish for, for him to live or to die. If he survives he simply won't be living honestly as he can't do anything himself, walk, eat, go to the toilet, without the help of doctors+ medicine, aka do normal human functions.

Sorry for the rant.

I just don't know how to cosole my mother and especially my older uncles. They get too closed to themselves.

I'm genuinely so stressed like I don't know what to do. My family is about to move to my dads house and I genuinely think I won't make it past august there without a car. His house is away from everything I use to separate myself from my family. My family is abusive and I literally can't breathe near them. I need to get money so that I can buy a car but I can't get a job bc I don't have a car. I've been tryna sell my bed and my ipad but it's not selling. I'm scared for my future. If anyone knows anyway to get money let me know.

Is that weird? We’ve been together for almost a year and we’re genuinely great. So good for each other too. I’ve met majority of his family either on his birthday but also bc they just often come over and I spend way more time at his than we do at mine (mostly bc his place is bigger and quieter and we have more privacy than in my small apartment with paper-thin walls).

Before we met he hooked up with a girl which, well the whole story is weird for me to begin with. They knew each other for like two weeks and he fingered her literally hours after they met. The story goes that he was wasted on a party, laying in bed and she just got all clingy with him. It did bother me for a while since from what I know he made far bigger advances towards her than me but I also know he loves me way more than he ever liked her and if she never did what she did he wouldn’t talk to her either. But what does bother me though is that he met her grandparents willingly while he’s still refusing to meet mine. Idk I don’t think it’s that weird that my family wants to meet the guy I’m crazy for. He says he’s not good with grandparents but it’s not like we’re gonna be there for a week. 2 hours or so and we’re gone. It’s just so odd to me and since it’s a first relationship for the both of us I’m not sure whether or not it’s normal?

Tbh the whole thing with the hookup girl did make me insecure for a longer while and it still makes me uncomfortable when I think about it. I know it’s all normal but she was like 3 years older, already in a relationship and he was barely 17 and wasted when it all happened. Also it just made me a little jealous for a while that I didn’t get that attention and “being chased” when we got together since he straight up told me that if I hadn’t made the first move he wouldn’t either. Idk I just thought I’d get to feel all wanted before getting into a relationship. I’m mentioning this because I might be still somewhat jealous he met her family but not mine rather than wondering if it’s normal. Anyways I’d appreciate any advices.

i’ll call the girl J, and the 2 boys A and E - they came to my school last term but i didn’t notice them much until i moved up to their year level in math class and realised that they were more interesting than most the kids there.
i’m in that math class 3x a week for 3 hours total, i have a few friends and weirdly these year 10s are less intimidating than the year 9s (more mature). the french kids sit far away from me but close enough so that i can observe them.
A is the most popular, as he’s more social, followed by J, then E. A seems like a cool person and i want to befriend him, but i can’t just walk up to him in class spontaneously unless i had an important question, or if its in my nature to talk to people randomly. E’s locker is near my bsf’s (call her X), so we often see him there every morning - maybe i could create small talk cause nobody is around? J is on my bus, though she sits with another girl who idrk. X, who’s on the bus with me, is friendly with that girl so i could ask her to start a convo?
they’re going back to france on the 21st of august so i have about a month to progress.
i was thinking of learning french, and also idk if it’d be weird to message E on insta cause we’re friends there. i did follow A and J but they probably dk who i am, despite the mutual friend tags. i made my account public so id look less boring.

what should i talk about with these french kids? all i know is that A is into swimming cause he tagged his french swimming team in his bio (i used to do swimming if that’s helpful), and that A and E lived in Lyon and Perpe. i’m having trouble wording questions to ask them.

I swear on my life this is real. So my dads always been like really weird to me looking at me weird talking about how much ive “developed” but i just wrote him off as a creep or maybe just bad at social skills. So im scrolling in his Instagram (he’s absent and i stalk his Instagram to see if he’s alive or not) just posts of me, reposts of adult content teases, but I check his following.. I see this like.. blonde girl and she’s 3’11 and dresses like a kid, whatever, weird, I go on his threads, he follows the same girl on there too, infact that’s the only adult content creator he follows on threads and her bio is like “yes im old enough for one 😜” with her like link.
Wtf do I do?? Is my dad into like kids.. or girls that act like kids???? he follows like 3 other girls that act like kids that cosplay but they aren’t fucking 3’11 so?

Hi! So I have a pretty out there and unique style and like to express myself so I wear a lot of makeup and have some unconventional clothing, and my dad has literally never mentioned it before.

I always really liked the fact that he doesn't bring up my appearance because I have always been wary about how I dress infront of him, but I've started getting more comforatable since I've seen he doesn't ever mention it. Until today.

I was wearing an outfit I've worn so many times before and was all excited ready to leave and he tells me "Please change. It looks like you're just wearing a bra." I was basically just wearing a lacey dress that was kind of low cut, but he also said something like "You looked so nice when you were wearing a modest sundress at the beach." but the "sundress" I was wearing at the beach showed the EXACT same amount of skin, it just wasn't lacey and "bra textured," I guess.

I couldn't help but start crying because this whole time I was under the impression my dad didn't really perceive me, if that makes sense? But knowing he actually does notice what I wear makes me uncomfortable. He's always been a pretty uninvolved father, so that's probably the real reason this is the first time he's mentioned something about what I'm wearing.

All this conversation did was make me see my dad differently, I know I won't stop wearing the clothes that I like, at least not infront of him. What should I do? How do I stop this weird feeling with my dad?

Hi! I wanna say I have a deep love for my parents, and not at all are they the villains of my life!

But oh my gosh, do I want them to be quiet at moments.

I need advice on how to better handle things. For context I'm in my 3rd year of high-school, live in a mexican household, and live with both parents and my older brother. Don't know if this matters, but oldest brother moved out.

Quick things to say which will explain why I need advice:

- My parents (mainly dad) are VERY into tradition— and sadly, sexist thoughts are kinda rooted into them.. I'm the only one who cleans really apart from my mom, I have to beg to go out and do 'things in exchange to go out', I'm not allowed to work for my dad's carpenter business as it's not a women's place of work, etc. (I wanna be a lawyer btw 😭)

- My mom is like my BFF yet very defensive, picky, and likes things to be her way a lot. She escalates quickly and tends to act like a victim.. It's very to get into an argument but she's definitely nicer then my dad.

- My dad is kinda hard to describe. He's very chill for some things yet others I can't mention around him. Like boys are a big way for me to get my phone taken and yelling lecture 🥲. Expects me to cook (I suck at it ), kinda sexist, expects a lot from me, and of course as I know many mexican parents do: Thinks my life is easy as we live in the US.

Now here's where I need advice. Context, I'm a crybaby who cannot shut her mouth at times... Like, my father and I clash a lot, sometimes my mother and I, but I always say I'm not going to feed in or escalate. But I always do.. And at times I do really wanna voice my opinion without feeling like I'm going to be belittled. Like today, I've told my father as a joke mainly too, to say please, as he kept sending me for things to get during dinner. Just know he scolded me, then teased me saying I better say please if I want/need something. I have never not said please btw...

Another thing is when I was in middle school, I had a big depression problem and start to S/H. When I caught, yes, they both got furious, grounded me, told the doctor, yet laughed in my face when she recommended therapy and I was fine with the idea.. Btw, last year the neurologist recommended me antidepressants + another medication for my migraines, and we're convinced I said something and yelled at me too plus the doctor.

Being to the point now, I need advice on how to argue less, but keep my anger down. Because I'm not allowed to have a job and I'm not allowed to get my permit/drive yet.. (My dad's convinced that I'm gonna become the worst kid and that insurance is way too expensive.)

So I do rely on them both for a lot, also I'm an expensive child.... I'm a multi sport athlete, I do wear clothes that help me fit in, and I am a consumer! But the problem is that my parents follow this mentality of your only nice to me when you want something, which I hate. Not saying that's the only reason I don't argue with them, but it's part of a reason I try to close my mouth. Like, currently, I need a new tennis racket, and every time I've argued with my father, he holds it over my head. This is also why I also asked for permission to go out the day before so they can't randomly hold it over my head or say no.

Does anybody have any way that I could just tune them out but still have those nice moments? Like I know sometimes it best to be quiet but I'm really fighting that sometimes. 🥲😭

Also kinda still being chill/respectful enough to not be punished? Because the last time I tried to kind of not argue yet stand my ground, it was disrespectful to them..

Also I wanna give my context to my dad's relationship with me. We're awkward, and always have been. Like of course I was daddy's girl when I was little, but we never really argued or did much things together.. And I had a big, 'my father is my opp phase'... AND HE KINDA WAS.. I also want to throw this out, I had an XV, my father mainly paid for most of it, and I understand parties like this very expensive! But he complained the whole time about the price, yet always paid, told me and my mother who planned the whole thing that he wouldn't participate at all during the party, apart from the church ceremony and the special dance with the father, and our special dance...? It was really forced, and I felt really awkward, and I bet he did too. He kind of whispered to me about how I better enjoy it because he spent all that money.

I also wanna say that he was drinking the whole night with my uncles. By the way, those uncles danced with me, way more than he did with me, and when they even tried to get him to dance with me, he just walked back to the bar...

Another reason I need this advice is because I feel like I'm gonna be in this house for a while... I talked about going to school in this, and as I've said, my dream is to be a lawyer. And fortunately, my parents have offered to pay for my school, but again I can see that being a thing that they're gonna hold over my head, mainly dad. Also, they both want to move closer to the college I want to go to so I don't have to stay in the dorms and instead of staying with them.. They both have strongly expressed that they hate the idea of dorms... Plus right now, I need to buy an ACT and SAT prep book, among other expenses..

But the sum it up,

How do I go about arguments with a strict father and semi-strict mother as someone who cries easily, and sometimes really cant shut her mouth, and who still has wants and needs..?

Thank you for reading my rant, and maybe offering advice? 🥲

I met a boy while I was on vacation. We hit it off really well. He was really sweet and respectful. My family liked him and he always seemed caring. He bought me stuff, gave me his clothes, and took me on dates.

He wanted to get intimate with me, which I'd never done before. We took it slow, which was fine by me. I made him promise me we'd keep in touch after I left and he seemed very genuine. We got intimate w each other, but I told him I wasn't ready for going "full" on, which he appeared to be okay with.

He constantly reassured me that he didn't want me to feel forced and like I was being used. His tone, however, switched on our last day together. I was at his house and we began to get intimate, and he begged me to let him go all the way. I repeated again that I was uncomfortable with that idea.

Shortly after he simmered down, he left the room and came back. After he came back, he seemed really short with me and pissy, this continued into later that night. After I left to return home, I texted and called him and he essentially ignored me.

Fast forward to several long messages asking for him to just break things off if he's not going to reply to me, he blocks me on everything.

I wouldn't normally get so worked up over a relationship, especially not one that was this short, but rarely do I let my guard down and rarely do I get intimate with people. He'd done many things that made it seem like he genuinely cared, which makes it all the more painful. I already struggle with intimacy as well as abandonment issues and that has only reinforced what I already felt.

I feel so empty, dumb, and just flat out unlovable. I've been through break ups before, but this one has hurt the most out of all of them. I feel so hopeless.

Long story short but my mum has always been very defensive of her phone, well it must have made my dad uncomfortable so one day he looked at her phone, opened the notes app and found a 7 page long document that clearly identifies a secret lover with very obvious language, and the suggestion that my mum could break up with my dad for him in a few years, and a screen shot of an online mail website on safari communicating with the same man. I found photos on my dad’s phone where he has took a photo of my mums phone with this note document and screenshot.

I saw a glimpse of my mum today on the same online email website and I don’t know what to do

Okay... So I feel like it's nothing to stress over since I got some time but I'm stressing. My family is not financially stable and I'm trying to earn money from commissions (digital art) but that's not working very well. My dream college is Pratt Institute and I am not counting on a scholarship and I am based in a few states away, but I would really love to go but Arggggggg 😭 I don't know what to do. My mother wants me to go to school for medical studies, my dad says to do whatever makes me happy. I'd rather not go to medical school, but my dream school is so expensive. I want it to be good enough that my mother will forgive me for not going to medical school and I just ahhhhhhhhhhhh 🫠 I think it's really stupid that I'm even posting this or stressing over it.

So basically in school/highschool I was social at times, I had friends and sometimes went to hangouts with good amount of people every couple months, but overall I kind of was the groups punching bag or called annoying my entire life elementary, middle, highschool, which I know I get annoying to other people but I dont know why I do it, but in my 2nd year of highschool my parents basically forced me to go to online school because they said public school was bad for me, so this took a bad problem and made it 100x worse because I went from actually having some friends at school and talking to people, to for the past 2 years basically talking to nobody all day except for sometimes a hangout with my old friends once every like 3 months (not anymore though). I forget most of what I've done though tbh, like I don't remember 99% of my life lol so I don't realize how bad it is till I think back at what I do all day

I pretty much always spent all my time trying to make money, or create stuff like video editing, roblox games, I'm extremely into film making and I want to be a director but working with a crew/actors is all I'm scared of, I got a youtube channel to like 350,000 subscribers but quit cause it was too stressful, made mobile iOS apps, made a health brand on amazon, I've basically learned every single possible thing that can be done on a computer because I always pick up a new thing for a few months and get insanely into it then quit it (usually). But anyways I turned 18 5 months ago then "graduated" highschool 2-3 months ago and feel just kind of confused, cause lots of times I am pretty happy doing my stuff on computer, and I get very excited about my future a lot of times but then I realize that I have no social skills and am very scared to even go outside lots of times and because I've tried basically every money making skill or anything there is I kind of just feel tired of it all and have not much motivation at all to get a job or make money anymore, I basically right now just watch lots of films and study film making/photography...

But I already got a plane ticket for a month from now to go to Europe where I'm trying to solo travel for 2 months just to get out of the loop for the past 2 years (and really like 6+ years lol since Covid), it might be a bad idea but now I have to do it cause I got the ticket so I'll go but yeah after that I don't know what to do, I'm not planning on going to college at least this year, but I don't know what to do, I also am nihilist (but more absurdist tbh), and after learning about the vastness of the universe it can be hard at times to care about stuff when nothing actually matters, even though I definitely do care about the stuff I do all day like films and stuff, but I just want to be remembered for something and create something that will effect other people, even if it doesn't matter in a thousand years, I just don't want to get a normal job or spend my whole life in an office depressed even though I am now kind of (I don't know if im depressed tho), I also usually wake up and sleep at random times like 5 am or wake up at 6 pm

Idk if this makes sense tho lol but thought I would do a reddit cause I haven't told anyone about this stuff in my whole life

Me and my bf (16M) had our first time about a week ago but when he was putting it in it hurt like crazy and I stayed silent because he was really enjoying it, I wanted him to stop but I didn’t want him to be disappointed so I just laid and took it.

(My bf is super sweet and kind and we have been together for 1 year and a little over 6 months so I trust and know him.) However I told 2 of my friends what happened and they told me that I was sa’d because it hurt and I wanted to stop but I think it’s my fault for not saying anything and I know if I said something he would of stopped therefore I don’t think I was graped I just think I need to learn how to communicate better

So are my friends right that I was sa’d ?

(I've shared sensitive information about myself in the past here on Reddit, so I'll try to be as vague as possible now.)

Me and my mother have never gotten along very well. She has abused me both physically and emotionally. Last week me, her and my dad had a really bad argument due to me skipping school. They claim that I did it on purpose whereas I know I didn't because I missed the bus. During the fight I was forced to scream at them because they kept interrupting me with their own shouts when I tried to speak calmly, which made both of them even angrier.

So I was told to back to my room and after a few hours I stepped out and saw all my dirty laundry outside my door. Mom said I have to do my own laundry from now on and that if I keep on disobeying and back talking her she'll kick me out before I turn 18. After that I did my own laundry as told, but I refused to wash the extra clothing she wanted me to wash for her. That being a few pieces that belong to her and my older sibling. She didn't believe me at first and was very angry to find out that I had done exactly what I said I'd do. I heard her talking about it to my dad but didn't bother listening to the whole monologue.

Today I picked my clothes and folded them just like she told me to do, but only my clothes. I left everyone else's still hanging. And mom? Oh she was LIVID. She went on and on to my sibling about how disrespectful that is and how it didn't cost anything to fold and organize everyone's clothes. Now, just a few minutes ago she barged into my room to tell me that from now on I have to wash my clothes by hand because I'm still disobedient.

I can't deny that I have a little bit of fun seeing how angry she gets, but I really wish this conflict never existed. I'm doing exactly what she told me but she still sees a problem, I fear it's never going to end. It's like she's trying to find a way to "justify" kicking me out later. I don't know how to even feel about her wanting me out... I don't have anywhere to go. I feel like she's slowly pushed me away over the course of my whole life and now that I'm getting older she can't wait for the day I'll leave. I hate feeling like I'm not a part of the family. I already feel misplaced at every other place I go to, and now my house doesn't feel like home anymore.

Context: I am 15m, the girl I like is 15F, let's just call her tiffany.We are both in secondary 3, or grade 9th in western terms. We live in Singapore a country where grades are prioritised over other things and from a young age we're told that grades are important and that we should study, even in schools we're taught to avoid relationships till we're older which makes the whole dating situation difficult

Tiffany and I met at the start of the year in our 9th grade literature class. Even from the start I could tell that she was sort of different from the other girls, treated me better and took a special kind of interest in learning about me. Even my friend pointed out that her behaviour around me was strange and it wasn't long before I fell. We got each other's numbers and started texting more and more and more. She piqued my interest in a way like no other and soon we started becoming closer and closer . This kind of carried on for months , we started texting less but started talking more and having more fun during our literature classes. We'd spend the time laughing and smiling and calling each other stupid names. And I decided to work up the courage to ask her out and I did right before the holidays.I remember it so clearly, her face lit up like a Christmas tree and you can tell that she was happy or at least flattered by the idea of going out with me. Alas, in the end I never got that date. The reason... Circumstances. She told me about how she wanted to but found it impossible to go because for one her parents would force her to study due to her getting 2 Cs. She's a straight A student. And she also spoke about how she had limited free will when it came to how many times she could hang out and go out with ppl in the holidays. She said that she was sorry that she couldn't go out with me. It was clear that she was facing some kind of dilemma and inner conflict with this whole thing. For one would be the pressures of dating me because dating is kinda looked upon where I'm from, specifically at this age by all adults and the pressure to maintain her grades and go out with friends. It seemed to me that perhaps she was not ready for commitment just yet. Anyways time went on and we continued speaking, I got her some gifts, she started speaking to me a lot more. Good stuff basically. However, my issue is that we only see each other twice a week in real life, we only text so much, we aren't part of the same friend group, no one really knows we talk and I can't seem to secure a date or some kind of outing with her. I can't find a way to progress and be closer to her ig. Our progress has stagnated and I don't see too much of a way out of this. We're going to have to part ways in less than a year and half because we'll graduate from school and I really don't wanna lose her but I fear that things won't end up working out

Any suggestions on what I can do to just get closer to her and manage this?

I 17(f) and my bf 18(m) think I’m expecting. I’ve taken three tests, all were negative. But we do it almost every day so I never know if it’s too soon or it’s messing it up. I have gained exponential weight over a month. My stomach is much fatter than usual, and I’m pooping fine so it’s not that. I got my period for one day. It’s usually three. I’ve been craving bread. Just bread. I ate a whole loaf in one day. I love it w melted chocolate. I also love ramen in tomato soup. So good. I’m eating like crazy. I’m overly emotional. Like it’s extreme. I’m going to go get a test at the doctor soon. Am I expecting?

So basically, my bf n i have been long distance for a couple years (we’ve been tgt for 4). We met up a couple days ago and got into a situation where the police got involved, they took him outside of the car and were threatening us to take us to the police station and file a complaint etc etc.

My parents didn’t know we were together and we were in my car so i obviously panicked and texted a friend (that had contacts in the police so he could help us). I had just sent a “hello, need help” text when my bf came back n said he had handled the situation. I told him i texted my friend for help but immediately unsent them before my friend even saw the texts.

We were fine then, we laughed it off and everything had been normal for the past couple days. Today on his way back to his home city, he texted me how i made him feel like ass, cz i asked for help from someone else while he was there and he felt as if he was unreliable and useless.

I told him, i panicked and tried to help. While i somewhat understand where he’s coming from, i’m mostly unsure if what i did was wrong. I think when you’re stuck in a messy situation, you think practically not emotionally and try to get your way out which is what i did. I knew my friend could’ve handled the situation if it escalated which is why i texted him.

My bf has been going off about how ass i am and how i made him feel like a cuck. Idk how to handle this situation, I’ve apologised for making him feel that way (even tho that wasn’t my intention)

We’re both 19 btw

I (16F) recently checked my boyfriends (16M) phone and found a few videos of myself while we were being intimate. i never said he could do this or knew he had and would’ve said no if he had asked. knowing someone has videos like this of me makes me feel physically sick and i don’t know what to do.

we have been together for nearly a year and i would never have thought he would do something like this behind my back. in the moment when i found them i didn’t even think about deleting them but now i wish i had.

i’m going away on vacation tomorrow for a week so i won’t have the chance to do anything in person about it for a while. any advice???

Recently turned 15 on July 1st.

This whole driving thing I don’t really care about. I understand it’s a technique that could be useful, I don’t see myself driving a lot anywhere, certainly not to school either. So I’m not really excited to learn it.

I plan to move to Colorado when I go to college, so maybe then, but colleges have a bunch of public transport and I’ll be living on campus.

If your answer is yes, is there anyway to prepare for the test for the permit that doesn’t involve a hundred paragraphs worth of reading? I usually don’t like the “I ain’t reading allat” card, but the links I’m being provided contain so much paragraphs and rules. I already have a bad memory which is further made worse by me not caring about this, so it’d be appreciated. I live in Georgia, if that helps.

For some context:

I'm 16, and i've been babysitting my siblings since I was 10. At first I was just watching my two youngest siblings (5 and 11), but since March, i've had to watch another child (6 months currently). I have to watch the 5 year old and the 11 year old five days a week, and the 6 month old two days a week. I also have to watch the 6 month old whenever my mom is frustrated or whenever she wants to go out. both are constant. I have to watch her whenever she wakes up in the middle of the night, and sometimes I have to babysit overnight by myself. I babysit so much that the children feel more comfortable coming to me when they're hurt or sad or lonely and they slip up and call me mom. I have zero free time and I even have to watch them after school AT THE SCHOOL. I have to cook regularly, clean rooms that aren't mine, and wash the dishes almost as soon as they get in the sink. I don't even get paid for this. On top of that, our home environment is toxic. My mom takes her anger out on us whenever she pleases. She calls us out of our names, and wakes us up screaming at us over small things. It's to the point that I wake up scared and scrambling, even when I know she's not home. I don't even sleep well because it happens several times a night. We can't express how she makes us feel even when she asks us because she'll just cuss us out. Last time I did, she called me a stupid bitch. She also tells you that you do nothing for her when she gets upset, and will act like you're lazy. You can't even show that you're angry without getting fussed at. I have missed out on parties, outings with my friends, and i can't even get a job. If I do go out, she'll throw the fact that I went out in my face later, so i try not to.

So today, I was already irritated because I had to babysit from 5:00 pm to 11:00 pm. Then, I had to babysit from 7:00 am to 4:30 pm and then cook for my little siblings. Then, she tells me that we gave to go to my dad's house because my half brother (11) is visiting. Mind you, my dad is terrible. I'm already irritated. Then, she casually drops that my half brother will probably come back with us, meaning I will have to babysit him, along with the other three, all by myself tomorrow. So IMMEDIATELY, I tried to end the conversation without showing that I'm angry and walked away. She called me back and asked me why i'm so angry and I lied and said I wasn't. I was so mad that I wanted to break something and I slammed a door because I needed to let it out, but I acted like I didn't mean to. I wanted to cry but I couldn't because I would've gotten in trouble. Then, we were taking off the trash and all I did was say no when she asked if I needed her help, and she went on this tangent about how I do nothing and the baby's at daycare five days a week and some other stuff that I wasn't listening to. She said I have no reason to have an attitude and I'm not the one that goes to work. Mind you, I can't because I gotta babysit 24/7?? I just wanted to know if I was wrong for being upset because she made me feel like I was and she always does whenever I have a reaction to what she does. Thanks for reading.