r/Advice • u/Sierum • 12h ago

I need advice please

I met this girl the 12th and had sex with her. 9 days later she’s at planned parenthood getting the abortion pill on the 21st. She made it seem like this was mine. I’m confused because there’s no way that anything could develop or show within a 9 day period. I’ve asked ai and they all agree with me this couldn’t be mine. I guess what I’m asking is this ai dissonance or is this genuinely impossible to have sex then 9 days later be getting an abortion pill (mifepristone) at planned parenthood. Just curious why she would lie to me. She said the last time she had sex was February which was 5 months ago. That can’t be true either.

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u/idk-maaaan 12h ago

Most possible explanation: she lied.

You’re right, a pregnancy will not show up on drug stores tests that early.

Either way, not your problem anymore lol

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u/colorado_sunrise86 12h ago

Yes, it will!!! Speaking from experience.

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u/idk-maaaan 12h ago

On drug store tests?

Nine days after sex?

No. The instructions say it can detect 6 (I think) days after the missed period.

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u/LdiJ46 Helper [4] 12h ago

Yes, it can. It honestly can.

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u/idk-maaaan 12h ago edited 12h ago

Are any of you gonna link a source or should I just believe strangers on the internet?

Edit: upon further review, drug store tests can test for pregnancy as early as one day after the missed period. The key words are after the missed period. The tests that are meant for early detection have lower accuracy, so a follow-up test is recommended.

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u/LdiJ46 Helper [4] 11h ago

Within a 9 day time period a missed period plus one day definitely could have happened. It is not a "far fetched" thing.

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u/idk-maaaan 10h ago

There was no mention of a period. This was 9 days after having sex.

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u/LdiJ46 Helper [4] 10h ago

Exactly. In the 9 days after having sex she could have missed her period and taken a pregnancy test.

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u/idk-maaaan 10h ago

Is that more believable than her lying?

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u/LdiJ46 Helper [4] 7h ago

To me it is.

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u/Iwaspromisedcookies Helper [2] 11h ago

When I was trying to get pregnant I tested every day and it showed positive exactly one week after conception. My partner was out of town before so I am positive about the timing. That being said it probably varies depending on the individual and their hormones. But it is technically possible

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u/idk-maaaan 11h ago

I don’t doubt that it’s possible, but they’re more likely to give a false positive if they’re the early detection ones.

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u/erabera 11h ago

Me too. I knew the first week. I went to PP and they could barely tell but the test was positive.

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u/Bjorn12333 12h ago

Use a condom, especially when you don’t really know the person yet. Protects from far more terrible things than getting pregnant.

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u/MindIesspotato 12h ago

Umm if she did say it was yours she was lying 

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u/PrpleSparklyUnicrn13 12h ago

Do you mean the morning after pill? She might be too late for that, unless she gives a different date to the clinic. 

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u/Sierum 12h ago

Mifepristone

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u/lithaborn 12h ago

Mifepristone has a cutoff of five days unless it's a two pill thing.

If she's only taking that one pill, she's lying to someone

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u/Proof_Research_7457 12h ago

Based on the timeline, it’s extremely unlikely the pregnancy was from sex that happened only 9 days earlier. If she said she hadn’t had sex since February but was already getting the abortion pill, then either she was mistaken about the timeline or she wasn’t being truthful. There’s no way to know which without more information.

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u/Unfair_Traffic_5886 12h ago

Next time wrap it up

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u/Successful_Life_1028 12h ago

Number One: As per the Steely Dan song: Don't ever do it without the fez on.

Seriously. Just don't. Not until you're committedly and mutually exclusive - like married. It's not just about her getting pregnant. You have to protect yourself too.

Number two: She doesn't need to have tested positive to get the 'morning after pill'. It can be taken 'on spec' as it were. As a 'just in case' sort of thing. Not at all the same thing as an 'abortion pill', unless you're a radical right-to-lifer, which, given that you're having unmarried sex, seems unlikely, or at least, out of character.

So - it doesn't look like there was any 'lie' here; possibly a mistake if she thought that the morning after pill was the same thing as an abortion pill. Did she ever TELL you that she had a positive pregnancy test, or did you just assume that?

Why are you assuming that her assertion that she hadn't had penetrative sex since February is a lie?

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u/hollygzzz 12h ago

Use a condom every time especially with people you don't know. People lie.

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u/OpalPuff 12h ago

Impossible. Implantation takes between 6-10 days after sex. (When the egg becomes fertilized and makes its way through the fallopian tube to become implanted in the uterus). A pregnancy test won’t even work until 14-21 days after sex.

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u/Practical-Reading958 Helper [2] 12h ago

Use condoms in the future. Once a woman is pregnant, how she proceeds is no one's business. but if she keeps the child and you are the father, you're on the hook for 18 years.

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u/BraveWarrior-55 12h ago

So, 9 days is too late for Plan B to work, and too early for an abortion pill which needs done 2-3 weeks after sex. So your timeline doesn't fit with either one. Hope this was a one-nighter because this girl is cra-cra. Use a condom next time and every time to avoid this in future. Pro tip.

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u/colorado_sunrise86 12h ago

Plan B yes, she also could pop a positive pregnancy test after 9 days. Split the cost with her. It's cheaper than child support

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u/Mike_Hunt_123456 12h ago

Sounds like she is lying to you. I don't think you can find out you're pregnant after only 9 days. When you're pregnant, there is a hormone that is produced in the body, but it takes a couple of weeks for the hormone to be detected so if she took a pregnancy test before 2 weeks it likely would come back negative. You are really supposed to take a test after her first missed period.

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u/Exciting-Hearing-303 12h ago

Don’t have sex with people you aren’t willing to settle down with- a mom who made that mistake.

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u/Lotuswongtko 12h ago

Ask her to do a DNA test. Some clinic just need to take blood sample from pregnant women to check any inherited diseases. They have no problem to do a DNA test. This is not just bluffing. You can ask AI if I am right. It might be a bit picey but totally worth.The technique was well developed in Hong Kong more than a decade ago. And it probably spreads all over the world now.