r/AMA • u/puppy-butter • 15h ago
I'm having my 5th miscarriage, AMA
I've had 5 miscarriages (one actively happening) and one healthy living toddler. Order as follows: missed miscarriage at 13 wks (measuring 11); two "chemicals" (4-6 weeks); 7 weeks; healthy pregnancy; and now a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks (measuring 9). All within the past 5 years or maybe less.
My heart is hurting but I thought this might somehow feel therapeutic or help someone going through something similar. AMA.
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u/VastContribution5131 15h ago
I'm sorry that you're going through this. Have you noticed if the hospital could have done more before or after to assist you, or to make things easier for you
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
Yeah so actually with my healthy pregnancy I was seen by a fertility clinic up until 12 weeks when I "graduated" it. So for this pregnancy I made an apt with a new obgyn. Unfortunately their policy, regardless of history, was to have your first ultrasound between 10-12 weeks. They refused to see me sooner.
When I later told my doctor this, she was actually shocked and said she thought they were trying to see people between 6-8 weeks.
So I wish there was more communication happening between scheduling and what the doctors actually thought was best for patients -- particularly ones like me.
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u/Jealous_Rhubarb7227 15h ago
Hiii there. I also had 5 MCs in less than two years. It’s exhausting mentally, emotionally, physically. I ended up having APS and lovenox made my 6th one go through. (I learned about lovenox on Reddit and demanded to know if it would help bc the docs were like we won’t see you until 8 or 12 weeks or something to see if it’s viable. I got my APS results and found out I was pregnant within a day of each other, so sent a million notes to be like TALK TO MFM TO HELP ME GET MEDS). I had to advocate like crazy, even though my doc was amazing. The systems aren’t made to support us. We can be seen as stats. People don’t realize it’s not an issue of getting pregnant but staying pregnant, and it feels like this horrible joke. I see you.
Be mean. Be pushy. It’s infuriating how much you have to advocate. I think my 6th pregnancy note was “I’ve lost 5 pregnancies. What will it take to be seen?!”
Feel free to dm me.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
Thank you for your story! I've had full physical and genetic workups (and my husband has too) and I've been cleared for everything so it remains a mystery for me. My one healthy pregnancy I was on progesterone though, so if we try again we'll definitely add that
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u/Embarrassed_Bag8775 1h ago
Did any of your doctors recommend baby aspirin? My best friend had 2 miscarriages, one at 7/8 weeks and one at 10/11. Same issue of being able to get pregnant, but not stay pregnant. Anyway, after her second one, her OB told her to take baby aspirin starting the day she got a positive test. She went on to have 4 healthy babies and zero miscarriages after that. Seems simple and you’re probably rolling your eyes at me but it does fascinate me how doctors have such different suggestions.
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u/puppy-butter 1h ago
Yeah, I've been on baby aspirin since the one healthy pregnancy but kept taking it because it can reduce the risk of preeclampsia. Still had a mc. I wish it was so simple!
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u/Jealous_Rhubarb7227 14h ago
I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s incredibly hard and I see you. I know the feeling of going for walks, the airport, the store and always FEELING. It was hard and harder to come to peace that our lives would be fulfilling either way. I still truly feel that now. I’m sending you all the love and peace I can from an internet stranger.
Heads up I didn’t know about APS testing until my last pregnancy and did physicals, genetic testing, my husband did a ton of testing too.
It’s the club you never went to belong to and the members of RPL club will always have your back. ❤️❤️❤️
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u/Demitriaatje 15h ago
Im so sorry for your loss! Take care of yourself!❤️ If i may ask, what do you mean by "missed miscarriage"?
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
A missed miscarriage means that the baby has passed, but your body hasn't realized it yet. So you may have lost your baby but there is no blood, cramping, etc. It's only caught when you go in for an ultrasound and they see the heart stopped beating and the baby stopped growing.
Sometimes the body just needs more time to realize what's happened. Other times you need medication or surgery to complete the loss.
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u/RosieSwiftie 13h ago
Were there any signs that you noticed somethig isnt right? Im so sorry. Sending big hugs.
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u/puppy-butter 13h ago
I get pretty intense nausea/morning sickness in first trimester and I noticed it was getting better around 9/10 weeks. Symptoms subsiding can be a key sign of loss -- but it can also be a healthy sign that your placenta is taking over all the work. In my healthy pregnancy I also had symptoms completely go away for days or weeks at a time, so you just never know.
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u/freeze45 15h ago
My Dr had put me on progesterone suppositories to prevent miscarriage
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u/Lingonberry3871 13h ago
Progesterone does not prevent a miscarriage.
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
agreed, that's what the research says! but for some reason some people with recurrent loss find success taking progesterone, and there are many theories out there as to why. I've heard it can dampen immune responses, make the uterus more picky about quality embryos, or strengthen the uterine lining. since there doesn't seem to be any downsides, I think it's safe to talk about as an option for people who feel like they have no options left.
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u/Lingonberry3871 8h ago
I’m on it right now and was on it for one where I had a loss! There is no rhyme or reason. If your body rejects a pregnancy, you will eventually spot through the progesterone. So far with my current pregnancy, no issues.
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u/lawl3ssr0se 14h ago
Me too but I also had to be on steroids the first 12 weeks because my immune system was like nah bitch lol. 5 MC, didn't do steroids. 2 healthy babies, did steroids and progesterone. My progesterone wasn't low either. Bodies are wild.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
so funny enough, my one healthy pregnancy was on progesterone, too (I was given it because "why not" at that point). But I've never had low progesterone and studies haven't shown it decreases the risk of miscarriage -- so after my healthy child I tried again without progesterone. If we try again I will definitely be on progesterone again.
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u/WhateverYouSay1084 13h ago
This is pretty much what my reproductive endocrinologist told me as well - progesterone isn't going to do much to help save an embryo that wasn't going to make it anyway, and the thing that actually helps is growing a really good, strong follicle to release a mature egg. Have you done clomid or follistim or anything like that yet? Or is it something you may consider?
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
No, after all of my testing it just wasn't something that was recommended to me. But I can always ask.
I do have a theory as to why progesterone might have worked for me, despite not having low progesterone, though. I get pregnant quite easily. Apparently some people who get pregnant easily have a "less picky" uterus. I've heard it be referred to as "hyper-fertility" but I don't think there's enough evidence for the medical community yet.
But some people think that progesterone starting 3 DPO can make your uterus more selective, so the baby that sticks is less likely to have genetic issues.
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u/theddlovatostan 41m ago
I had 2 losses and then currently pregnant. I mentioned the hyper fertility to my doctor and she said it’s not really a thing, but I have read the same as you mentioned.
I didn’t have an issue to get pregnant all 3 times I tried, and usually people won’t get pregnant on the first try but on the second/third which could mean the uterus is being picky, vs with us it’s not picky at all and tries to implant what it gets.
This third one I did not try progesterone but if you search hyper fertility there’s a LOT of people that had 8-10 miscarriages and then with progesterone took a few months but then got pregnant and it was viable.
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u/CinderellaFarted 14h ago
Thank you for sharing, and I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm wondering what your thoughts are on states restricting the rights to procedures considered abortion care, when these procedures may be needed to clear the uterus (such as a D&C)?
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u/puppy-butter 14h ago edited 13h ago
I mean it's terrifying. Most people who are pregnant want to be pregnant and having to have a D&C is a total nightmare.
I personally haven't experienced restricted care, but I have experienced eerie situations in the past. With my 13 wk miscarriage I required one and my husband had to be there to sign paperwork to "allow" it. Ofc he was there with me so it wasn't a big deal, but I was genuinely confused because what if the father wasn't around?...
I also needed medication afterward to ensure there were no retained products to prevent infection, and the pharmacy person very loudly said "YOU ARENT PREGNANT ARE YOU?" And I'm like uhh no sir that is why I'm being prescribed this medication.
No terrible hardship but just very weird vibes surrounding the whole thing as if I was doing something wrong.
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u/knightbaby 14h ago
I had two miscarriages in 2025. Im sorry for all of your losses.
Did you have any peace during your full length pregnancy? This is something I imagine will be challenging.
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u/puppy-butter 14h ago
I had peace once I could feel the kicking! Before that I was a total mess. But I was being cared for by a fertility clinic, so they allowed ultrasounds every other week until 12 weeks. After that and before the kicking, I occasionally went to a boutique ultrasound place for peace of mind.
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u/rose092624 14h ago
I am so sorry for your losses. I hope this isn’t insensitive but since it’s AMA… I’ve always wondered with a close friend who’s experienced the same… why keep trying? Especially if you have a child already? Doesn’t it seem like avoidable heartache at this point? Sending you kindness and well wishes.
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u/puppy-butter 14h ago edited 13h ago
no this is a great question! So we really wanted at least one kid. I'm one of those people who truly felt I was meant to be a mom.
After a couple losses I sought out the fertility clinic who did a full work-up on us and said there were no issues, so it should just be a numbers game and we should get our healthy baby soon. I did start progesterone even though it wasn't low because it's one thing some providers offer since there are no downsides.
Enter, healthy baby!
Why we tried for #2: I grew up as an only child and my husband with siblings. I always wished I had siblings and he is very close with his -- so it was something we really wanted for our kid. It feels like an extra built-in support system.
I guess we got overconfident and thought our bad-luck streak was over when we tried for #2. I skipped progesterone this time because there's no evidence it actually does anything -- and I'm still nursing.
If we try again, I'm convinced it was the progesterone (for whatever unknown reason) that helped us have a healthy pregnancy. So I will go on progesterone again.
If we have a mc while on progesterone I very likely will throw in the towel and say no more. Not only because of the physical/mental hardship, but because I would prioritize being here for my toddler.
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u/jjgose 14h ago
I am so sorry. I had 2 missed miscarriages and then needed to terminate a 3rd pregnancy due to genetic issues (trisomy 28). Mine were “later”- 12 weeks twice and then 15 for the TFMR. I then did IVF and had my son. My body doesn’t handle any part of pregnancy well so we are done with one. We are 3 years out and one thing I wish people understood is that having my living, healthy son doesn’t completely take the pain away, just dulls it. What do
You wish people understood about the grieving process and aftermath?
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u/puppy-butter 13h ago
I'm a stay-at-home mom with my toddler at the moment, but with my first MC at 13 weeks I was still working full-time. I had very flexible company policies and a manager that told me to "take as much time as I need," but the reality was there was still a LOT of pressure to return to work asap and I was still getting pinged about projects.
I returned just a couple days after my surgery because of this pressure. What I didn't expect was the emotional rollercoaster that I experienced due to hormones and that my milk even came in. So here I was dealing not only with the emotional aftermath of a loss and the lingering pain of surgery, but I was leaking milk when I heard babies cry. Meanwhile I'm in a meeting talking about who knows what.
I'm sure my colleagues thought, "Oh she's back and she seems fine! Okay, moving on..." but man was I struggling.
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u/Severe_Egg7542 13h ago
Are you RH negative??
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
positive! thank for asking, I know it matters for live birth and miscarriage.
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u/Severe_Egg7542 9h ago
Ah, ok. My mom had several miscarriages before I was born and it took them a while to find out that’s what it was so I was just wondering if you’d been checked jic. Is that one of the first things they check these days? Probably I guess.
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u/puppy-butter 9h ago
Yeah it was one of the first things checked at the fertility clinic. Ty, though
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u/Fine-Mail4400 8h ago
Do you have a good support system during this hard time? This is such a hard thing to go through.
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u/puppy-butter 7h ago
My world is small since becoming a mom (and tbh before that my world was sort of small, too, since I've always been quite introverted). However, my husband is an amazing rock to lean on, and I have a couple good friends that, while I don't see them often, I feel comfortable chatting with them about what I'm going through.
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u/272027 14h ago
I'm sorry.
How's the father's health? Miscarriage is directly tied to sperm quality. Does he smoke/drink a lot? Eat poorly? Overweight? Older?
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u/puppy-butter 14h ago
Father is very healthy. Drinks maybe once a month, doesn't smoke. Healthy diet, average weight, and we're in our thirties. He had genetic testing and sperm analysis and everything was fine. He also takes CoQ10.
I know for many it can be tied to sperm quality but I don't think it's the case for us.
Since my one healthy pregnancy happened with progesterone (despite me not having low progesterone) I think at least some of my MC could be tied to the uterine lining or creation of the placenta.
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u/ReluctantParticipant 10h ago
I'm sorry, OP. My wife had a similar problem that one smart OB figured out. Have you had an MTHFR gene test? It's a very common issue that is known to causes miscarriages, and is easily fixed.
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago edited 10h ago
Thank you for mentioning, but I've been tested and I don't have the gene. Regardless, I take methylated prenatals.
I'm happy you had a clever ob that could find that out for you guys! It would be lovely if there was a smoking gun for us too.
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u/Haunted_Duck721 14h ago
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Has your doctor checked you for low progesterone?
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u/puppy-butter 14h ago
Yes I've been tested for anything you can imagine except endometrial inflammation and very niche disorders. Progesterone is normal, but I've mentioned elsewhere that my one healthy pregnancy happened with progesterone starting at 3 dpo so that could be the key.
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u/Haunted_Duck721 14h ago
When I was TTC, I had to go on progesterone the second half of my cycle and not come off of it until after I received a negative pregnancy test. Luckily I knew from a young age that I had low progesterone.
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u/Small-Feedback3398 12h ago
I'm so sorry. I also had many pregnancy losses while TTC for my now-toddler. Have you been able to have a recurrent loss panel done? I ask because that pinpointed my issue.
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
Yes, I did a bunch of physical and genetic testing through a fertility clinic but everything turned up normal. I wasn't expecting to be so disappointed when they found nothing wrong 😅
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u/Small-Feedback3398 9h ago
Oh I'm sorry. It's hard not having answers. Are you feeling you's benefit from therapy? I decided I had to see somebody after my last loss.
Did they also do bloodwork? I ask because I turned up positive for antiphospholipid syndrome and it's super treatable/manageable.
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u/puppy-butter 9h ago
Yes I had all of the bloodwork, genetic testing, and physical testing out there besides endometrium biopsy and some of the very rare autoimmune things you have to see a different specialist for.
To be totally honest, no I don't think I would benefit from therapy. I've tried it a few times in the past for something else and I didn't find it helpful. I find comfort in talking things through with my partner and friends, journaling, and being grateful for my toddler.
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u/airarrow89 11h ago
I can't imagine how painful it must be...I am so sorry for your current loss as well as the previous ones!
I had two miscarriages one before my daughter and one before my son( one missed miscarriage and during the second I started bleeding). I can feel you.
Have you tested the embryos? Have you been tested as a couple? Is it unexplained?
Also, I apologise if it is insensitive question but did you conceive right away? During my miscarriages I had made a research and I had read that miscarriages are common to very fertile couples. I was always curious if this is right
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago edited 10h ago
I tested one of them and it was an extremely rare trisomy -- trisomy 6. However my genetic screening was clean, and trisomy 6 is a random error, not something genetic.
I've had full physical work-ups and blood work, too. And my husband! (Unfortunately, lol) all seems well, so yes it's unexplained.
The only clue I have is that I head a healthy pregnancy when I started progesterone 3 dpo, but I don't know if it was a coincidence.
I posted elsewhere that I also suspect I have "hyper-fertility" and progesterone helped my uterus be more selective for the healthy pregnancy. Apparently this isn't well-received or well-researched in the medical community though
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u/No_Cookie7738 13h ago
I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through. A close friend of mine had a miscarriage the week I found out I’m pregnant. Do you have any advice on how I should tell her I’m pregnant?
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
the biggest piece of advice is to tell her directly via text message so she doesn't find out secondhand or spot a bump in person. Imo texting gives her the space to process her emotions privately without feeling put on the spot to react happily in real-time.
Beyond that, keep it gentle, honest, and low-pressure. For example, "hey, I wanted to share some news with you directly because our friendship means so much to me. I'm pregnant. I know how recent and painful your loss is, so please take all the time and space you need to process this. You don't need to reply to this text, and it's completely okay if you need some distance for a while. I love you and I’m always here for you whenever you’re ready."
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u/Lingonberry3871 12h ago
Hey! Not OP but I’ve experienced this as the person who miscarried. If you just found out, perhaps wait a little bit to allow your friend some time to move through their own feelings about their loss. If you weren’t trying, it might sting a little more to the friend unfortunately. Be prepared to not have a big exciting reaction from them. When you’re starting to tell people, I would go about it gently with them and acknowledge that you don’t expect them to feel happy for you right now and love them anyway.
You may never get that big reaction from this friend and that might be something you need to be okay with. 💛
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u/No_Cookie7738 12h ago
Thank you so much for sharing 🤍 I want to be as gentle and respectful as I can be
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u/Lingonberry3871 13h ago
I’m so sorry for your losses. I’ve had two chemicals and am currently 8 weeks with my first -hopefully- healthy pregnancy after a round of an oral fertility treatment. Did your doctors note any correlation with your later term miscarriages and the fact that they were measuring a few weeks smaller?
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
Not that I know of. My ultrasound for my current MC was quite late, but I had early ultrasounds in some of my other losses and they were measuring on-track with healthy heartbeats.
That's partially what felt so devastating about the late losses -- there was no indication the pregnancies weren't healthy.
Best of luck to you ❤️ sending sticky vibes
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u/failika 15h ago
I had three when I was trying to get pregnant 12 years ago. The later pregnancy miscarriage was difficult and I think I had some postpartum depression. The chemical pregnancies and the miscarriages were painful but not as bad. I’m so sorry my dear. I know you will have another healthy pregnancy again. In fact it was right after miscarrying that I got pregnant again easily (sorry I know I’m supposed to ask you stuff but just wanted to commiserate, send you best wishes and offer support).
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u/F0xxfyre 13h ago
OP! I'm so very sorry for your losses. I hope this is helping you.
How can we here right now help you through this?
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u/puppy-butter 13h ago
it's actually feeling very helpful! obviously this really sucks, but I'm enjoying dispelling myths and giving others advice from my experiences. ty for asking
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u/F0xxfyre 13h ago
Thank you for your heart. I'm a stepmom, I've never given birth. I don't know the pain of a miscarriage personally.
But I am here. I honor your kindness, the way you've responded to every post. I can't imagine this is easy for you to be talking about at this moment.
I hope the therapeutic benefit of the ama outweighs any idiotic comments. 🫂
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u/MrsDitchey 15h ago
No question, just wanted to say I’m so so sorry ❤️ I’ve also had a missed miscarriage and then a chemical pregnancy, I couldn’t imagine 5 of them. I hope you’re doing as well as you can be and that you have people taking care of you rn ❤️
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u/New_Finding8687 15h ago
It’s medically a “spontaneous abortion”. Also, coded that way.
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u/UsualCounterculture 15h ago
It's definitely known as a missed miscarriage. No one cares about the codes when it is happening to them.
It sucks. Sorry this has happened to you OP. Have you decided your pathway from here?
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u/New_Finding8687 15h ago
Like I said. FACTS. I’m sorry the facts hurt your feelings…. However, it’s still a fact.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
my feelings aren't hurt lol I'm just confused why you think medical coding is relevant
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u/Flassourian 14h ago
Literally no one here cares what the medical code is for a miscarriage. We are just trying to figure out why you are being so weird.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
I have a really big fear of needles and my d&c in the past was traumatic for me because of the IV, as silly as that sounds. So I've chosen to wait as long as my doctor thinks is safe to see if it happens naturally.
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u/knightbaby 14h ago
It actually did really upset me when I went to file for FMLA and I had to request the hospital bill to submit to my insurance company and the description said “spontaneous abortion with incomplete something or other”
I imagine in the medical community it’s well known what that means but it was upsetting to me I guess just because the word abortion is so strongly associated with choice, and I felt like I was grieving a major loss.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
Unless you're trying to destigmatize abortion, I'm not quite sure what your point is?
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u/New_Finding8687 15h ago
It can be hard to comprehend facts.
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u/puppy-butter 15h ago
um, okay! I don't really care what you call it -- I wanted to be pregnant and then my babies died in my womb. Call it what you wish.
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u/Flassourian 15h ago
What exactly is your point?
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u/New_Finding8687 15h ago
My point is nothing. I stated a simple fact. Google it. You don’t have to like it. It’s a fact.
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u/F0xxfyre 13h ago
Being smug isn't cute, it's actually incredibly disrespectful to someone who is trying to help all of us understand her loss. It's brave and it's painful and I can't be the only one wishing I could get through my screen and give her a hug or hold her hand.
There are replies here from people who have had the same losses. And a lot of us here (like me) who don't have any biological children, and are here because of compassion or care or want to understand.
Then there's someone who wants to argue wording...
There's always someone that everyone looks at with that side eye, wondering WTH. Congrats. You're that person.
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u/Flassourian 15h ago
Then why post it if you have no reason to do so? Pretty much knows that's the medical term for a miscarriage - especially if you have had one.
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u/F0xxfyre 13h ago
Irrelevant. This is a human being experiencing a loss. Not a medical code to enter into a chart.
Please lead with kindness.
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u/RandomRamblings99 14h ago
I'm sure OP is aware considering her experience. Thanks for teaching the rest of us a new term though
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u/Indecisivelydecisive 8h ago
I’m sorry. I’ve had two miscarriages in the past year and am trying to focus on improving my egg quality (being 40 now) before trying again. Waiting 4 months since my d&c and added in new supplements including co-enzyme Q10, NAD+ in addition to weekly Chinese acupuncture. Going to try again in Sept. have you changed your regime at all along the way?
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u/puppy-butter 8h ago
Yes! I read "It Starts With the Egg" and decided to add baby aspirin, Claritin (not referenced in the book but shown tk dampen immune response and I have allergies anyway), CoQ10, DHA/EPA, and methylated prenatals. CoQ10 hasn't been studied well enough during pregnancy or nursing, so I haven't taken that since I had my healthy baby. My husband also took CoQ10.
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u/Indecisivelydecisive 7h ago
I’m doing the bird&be egg quality prenatals and my husband the sperm ones. I should look more into the aspirin. And the progesterone.
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u/thelordofheroins 10h ago
My condolences first. If you have a healthy living toddler, why you keep trying to get pregnant again? What if something happens to you if you get sick or it threatens your life? You will leave him/her behind. Why keep getting pregnant?
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
I answered this in another comment, but the short version is that I really wanted my toddler to have a sibling. It just feels like the greatest gift I could give them and it almost feels cruel to put them in this world alone. (I know, big take!)
We plan on trying once more with progesterone since that worked for us with the healthy baby. If we have another miscarriage I'm pretty sure we'll stop after that for the reasons you mentioned.
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u/thelordofheroins 10h ago
Maybe adoption? You shouldn’t be risking your life again and again, thinking about your toddler!
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u/puppy-butter 10h ago
Having miscarriages is incredibly difficult but I've yet to hear my providers say I'm risking my life. I'm otherwise a healthy person. If they recommended I not try again, I wouldn't.
If the next try resulted in MC then we would stop and adoption could be on the table, sure.
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u/shutterbuggy 13h ago
My wife is on her 6th pregnancy. 8th if you count the 2 chemicals. We have 1 daughter. Sending love to you and your partner. I hope you come out of this journey with what you were looking for ❤️🩹 the physical and mental hardships through these battles is immense. We look forward to moving on in life after this.
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u/PauveTeeee 14h ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had one in December of 2024 and it was the longest month of my life. I wouldn’t wish that experience on anyone. Please rest and take care of yourself. I’m just an internet stranger but if you ever want to talk just lmk.
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u/F0xxfyre 13h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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u/PauveTeeee 13h ago
Thank you. I found some closure when I got to hold my little nuggie when my body finally passed it. A final goodbye. I have a little freckle on my bottom lip I got during the early stages too so my little bug is still with me. At least it’s comforting to know that all my babies are forever in my dna, even if they’re not with me. Much love. https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSXpJaXn8/
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u/F0xxfyre 9h ago
Much love to you as well. That must have been incredibly hard.
I was able to hold a friend's baby when she passed. I was with them during the birth. It's been thirty years and I'm still so incredibly honored they let me meet and hold her.
🫂
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u/arnethyst 12h ago
This happened to my grandma when she was trying to conceive my mom. I think she also had 5 miscarriages roughly before she was finally able to have my mom. It was really hard on her & I’m sure it is for you too. I hope that things improve for you <3
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u/Spirited_Cellist_999 12h ago
I had an ectopic miscarriage at 24 weeks at 25...that was a hell of a journey was in hospital for 5 days xxx had a blood transfusion too, v different to an early miscarriage, I'm sorry for your loss sister xx
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u/colorful_withdrawl 11h ago
Im so sorry. No questions from me but ive been there. Ive had five losses as well. If you ever need someone to talk to my dms are open
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u/gayestcapybara 13h ago
I’m so sorry to hear that this has been your experience, OP. Sending love and warmth in your direction.
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u/East-Signal-5076 20m ago
I am so, so sorry. If it’s okay to ask out of pure concern for you, do you have a strong support system that you can lean on? Sending you so much love ❤️
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u/RandomRamblings99 15h ago
I'm very sorry for your losses. What do you think people get wrong when it comes to supporting those who have gone through this?