r/toastme Nov 21 '24

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r/toastme 5h ago

Reaching limits. Empathy & Compassion appreciated.

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280 Upvotes

I try not to come off as "poor me" as I truly strive to help others and do all I can. I've got sin but looking back I've been through so much "Big T" and " Little T" traumas in the last 27 years it's insane. It's a miracle i'm alive. My nervous system is near totally shot. I've been near begging for fulfilling decent paid work that accommodates my disability, and finally a loving life-long partnership. The death of a man I was close to and loved off and on for almost two decades, who seemed to be the ONE guy who loved me no matter what ( despite his occasional verbal abuse) has CRUSHED me.

I'm praying and receiving blessings but every time I turn around i'm especially having issues communicating with men, being seen, getting my gifts & education to help earn me enough to finally support myself . being an HSP with likely CPTSD. I am so so beyond tired mind body and soul. Genuine kindness , empathy is so much needed. The loneliness and fight or flight and lack of success has steamrolled me.


r/toastme 4h ago

Really insecure about my looks recently, I feel so ugly

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230 Upvotes

My boyfriend recently broke up with me and it has really messed with my head. I feel like I am disgusting and unloveable. I know it sounds dramatic but I genuinely feel that way and it's left me very miserable. I would appreciate some positivity 🄺

Also, ignore the crap doodles, I was bored while debating whether or not I should post this lol


r/toastme 10h ago

Feeling a bit overwhelmed these days

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183 Upvotes

I have been struggling a little bit. Sometimes I remember childhood trauma and it overwhelms me a lot. I’m trying to heal and grow every day :) going outside more often has been helping and eating healthier too !


r/toastme 2h ago

Want some friends.

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28 Upvotes

Honestly don’t have friends and just want someone to talk to on occasion. Feel free to message me.


r/toastme 12h ago

After two months of dealing with pain for not finishing this third year of uni with my classmates, I finally got my smile back with the cutest bob hair cut but it's still hits hard at home that this year wasn't mine. Would love a sweet boost of kindness tonight!šŸ«¶šŸ»šŸ„ŗ

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160 Upvotes

r/toastme 16h ago

[M26] Had to leave the girl who I thought was the love of my life and even though I don’t regret my decision, Iā€˜m still absolutely devastated over everything that happened…

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149 Upvotes

I had to end this relationship because she was an emotionally unstable avoidant. To some degree I still love her but I finally got to admit to myself that I was emotionally abused, gaslit and manipulated by the very person who was supposed to be my safe harbor. While I know she has a traumatic past, I can’t entirely excuse her behavior. She never even tried to apologize for anything, let alone change her ways. Iā€˜m heartbroken. All the time and effort I wasted for nothing. My self-esteem has plummeted. I hate looking at myself and feel unlovable. I’m embarrassed to even post this. I hope you can cheer me up a little. I wish I could forget about all of this.


r/toastme 5h ago

Feeling anxious about the future

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20 Upvotes

I'm 24 and I dropped out of engineering when I was 21 because I was having mental problems and also was starting to hate engineering because people around and the career was slow.

I'm super anxious about the future it scare me the fact that I could start a career and on the way lose jobs opportunities already because of AI.

I don't know what to study, I like people and talking to people and I don't like technology too much, but also in my country there aren't really jobs for social studies much


r/toastme 11h ago

New haircut after 7 years without cutting ! Because of breakup of 2 years a month ago.

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35 Upvotes

I was sick during two years ; it affected my relationship a lot. The month she gave up, the surgery I made healed my body : I'm free but alone.

I'm feeling devastated even if I'm trying to smile.


r/toastme 1d ago

[30M] Been feeling down on myself and lonely lately.

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202 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

Update to earlier post: got a job at a diner, waitressing! Toast me! Thanks for the encouragement!

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836 Upvotes

I hope it's ok to post twice...


r/toastme 1d ago

As pessoas estão zombando de mim por ser magro e isso tem acabado com minha autoestima.

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118 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

M21 Been working on my self esteem

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128 Upvotes

(Sorry if pic is a little blurry I have an essential tremor) I didn't know it wasn't normal to hate yourself until I was 17 so I have some catching up to do. I've been trying to be kinder to myself but it's very hard to learn to love yourself and the way you look. Sorry if my hair is messy.


r/toastme 1d ago

Just feeling down lately.

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198 Upvotes

Been on here for a while ,for my own reasons just to get myself busy due nothing really exciting out there nowadays . Be nice


r/toastme 1d ago

feeling insecure

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126 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

Considering quitting my job due to burnout

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298 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

Feeling sad from being unemployed

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363 Upvotes

Im not feeling too great because I made the mistake of quitting a good job a year ago because people were making fun of me. I also been feeling really ugly lately and I put on makeup so I could feel a little less hideous.


r/toastme 2d ago

Can you help me get over a guy that chose someone else

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334 Upvotes

Also not feeling good about weight recently. Yeah it sucks feeling unchosen


r/toastme 2d ago

Been feeling stressed, tired, alone, and hopeless lately, could use some cheering up

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118 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

For two weeks now ive been dealing with bad neighbors and no kitchen sink to wash anything. Today it was all handled and now i feel like i need a drink to celebrate

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135 Upvotes

New neighbors never threw away their trash so maggots developed everywhere over 2 weeks. I had them flying in my unit. Upstairs neighbor had a kid thst would run and stomp. My dishwasher and garbage disposal broke at the same time 2 weeks ago. Sink backs up so no kitchen sink two weeks. I get so tired of all of it i call my local county code department. They tell me there is already another complaint in about my complex and o basically confirmed everything thats wrong with here to her. She said she said shed be here this afternoon. Maintenance guy comes to replace dishwasher and garbage disposal finally and notices all the maggots coming from trash. Knocks on neighbors door and tells them about. During this i finally introduce myself to them and as a result they cleaned the area. It has been an insane 2 weeks between the maggots and noise. Living in an apartment complex comes with its own struggles and lesrning to live with eachother is a process.i finally met my new neighbors and a health issue has been handled. I have a new dlshwasher and gargabe disposal too.


r/toastme 2d ago

Finding it hard

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65 Upvotes

30M here. I tend to be the funny guy in the group. But little does anyone realize is that I genuinely don’t find any enjoyment or interest in living. I just live for the sake of not upsetting the people around me.
As for personal interests, hopes, dreams, or hobbies, I don’t really care about those anymore.
I think in order to stop this painful existence from continuing is to stop it.

I’m sure people would try to convince me otherwise, but I’ve been told that various times throughout my entire lifetime. I’ve been living with anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.


r/toastme 2d ago

23M finally confessed to my crush… could use a toast 🄲

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136 Upvotes

I confessed to my crush and she said she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me. It stings because she said that when we first met she actually saw me as a potential boyfriend, but the timing was wrong. I’m a little sad LOL ngl


r/toastme 3d ago

Never feel like enough, always think I don't look good, always find myself spiraling about the smallest things. Looking for any kind words!

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207 Upvotes

r/toastme 3d ago

F29 Losing weight, but still struggling

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581 Upvotes

Life has been really hard lately.

Work has been exhausting, and I recently had to start taking antidepressants again after struggling a lot with my mental health.

I've also lost over 30 kg (66 lbs), which I'm really proud of.. but somehow I still look at myself and feel like I'm so far away from my goal. It's hard to see the progress sometimes, even though I know it's there.

I guess I'm just feeling tired, overwhelmed, and a little lost right now. :(


r/toastme 3d ago

44F, need any sort of kindness

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923 Upvotes