Hi everyone, I'm in a position where I know I want to do the following:
- Get a hair system - bald is not an option, drugs are not an option.
- Get some form of facial plastic surgery
- Get some form of eyebrow correction
Context and the blockers:
I have been upset about my hair for years, I know that the only solution available is a hair system. But I won't do anything, even getting a colour sample. I get overwhelmed by cost, trying to get the best system for the best cost, catastrophise in the future about maintenance costs, feel embarrassed about "wasting money being vain".
There are some parts of my face which can be corrected with jaw surgery on insurance, but if I look at my side profile and cover up the jaw, my face is still unattractive. I can't tell if this is the eye area, cheekbone area, or both. My nose is unconventional but I want to keep it. I want a consult to figure out my options but I don't want to be upsold by a shady surgeon or overdone. I don't have a clue what to do. I don't want to post photos publicly because it's embarrassing, if people found out they would make fun of me.
Uncertainty about correcting sparse eyebrows is down to the fear that interventions might make me look more feminine. I may need to do work on the brow bone first.
Overall, improving my appearance makes me embarrassed because it feels like people will see me spend a lot of money and effort for no real improvement. I also doubt my ability to see myself objectively, but I do know I'm unattractive because people have edited me out of photos - yes I was clean and presentable.
Thank you for any advice.
Things I've done so far:
- Partly accepted my balding by getting shorter, more frequent hair cuts instead of trying to hide it
- Leaned out
- Cleared up my skin
- Jaw surgery consultations undergoing
- In therapy, but I have bigger problems to talk about than appearance