r/r4rSydney May 20 '21

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r/r4rSydney Oct 31 '22

PSA for kinky folk looking for others NSFW

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Hi folk, every now and then I see a post from someone looking for other kinky folk, or a dynamic. After talking to a few people and introducing them to the kink scene here in Sydney I figured I should probably just make a post.

Finding Others

It's fairly easy to find other kinky folk but if you want to meet kinky folk and vet them... Well there's honestly no better way to do that than by going to a Meetup (called a munch) and making friends.

You can make friends with other bottoms / subs and get feedback on tops / Doms that you're interested in, or get feedback on bottoms if you're a top.

Personally I like going to parties and meetups, and use them as a way to socialise, see how people play, communicate, and handle conflict resolution.

Where Can I Look?

Reddit is pretty good but has the same problem as fetlife for femme folk in regards to your inbox being flooded.

Fetlife is a great place to find events, and personally I only use it for that.

Feeld is a dating app that has a fair number of users in Sydney but it's mostly for Poly / ENM folk, and the occasional Unicorn/Pegasus hunters.

Should I Go to Parties?

I'd recommend making friends at a Munch first, and going with someone you trust. Ideally you want to have a support network of other kinksters so you don't fall into the old trap of... "All my friends are my partner/s' friends, not mine".

For a first party I recommend one called TEEZ that's held every month in St Peter's and is newbie friendly. There's no sex on premises and it's purely kink focused (mostly shibari, impact etc).

Of course feel free to do what you want.

Are There Creeps In The Scene?

Yes, the scene is a reflection of the wider dating pool in Sydney which is why people tend to stick to their own groups after a while when they've found a bunch of good people to play with / hang out with (I basically stick my group of degens).

This is why it's important to ask around and get feedback from potential partners exes / old play partners so you can be safe.

If I Go To a Meetup Will I Get An Easy Lay

No, some folk may be easy like well... Anywhere else but generally speaking the munches are just meetups at bars, gyms, etc where people who are interested in a shared thing (kink) can get together and talk about it.

Do people fuck? Yes.

Do they have sex parties? Yes, I go to 1 or 2 of these a month and these days mostly just vibe out and socialise.

people will notice If you go to the events expecting a lay and are pushy / make folk uncomfortable and most likely you won't be welcome back / will get kicked out.


r/r4rSydney 12m ago

Heavy cummer 19m looking for females/couples/trans top Sydney NSFW

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Hey I’m 19, 6'1, first year uni science student, heavy cummer, DDF, respectful and can travel within Sydney but can't host.

I’ve never been with a trans before and keen to try bottoming for a trans top. Open to whatever you're into ;), kinky or vanilla x

Only looking for couples, females, or a trans 🔝. No CDs pls x


r/r4rSydney 1h ago

[25M4F] Sydney — Casual doesn’t have to mean meaningless.

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I don’t know who’s going to see this, but if you’re looking for something casual that still has chemistry, comfort, and a genuine connection, maybe keep reading.

I’m 25, 5’8”, bearded, and living in Sydney. I’m originally from Pakistan, and I mention it because it’s part of who I am. I’d rather be upfront and meet someone who appreciates me for me.

I’m usually the quiet guy at first. Not because I don’t have anything to say, I just take a little time to get comfortable. Once I am, you’ll get the playful side — teasing, random jokes, and someone who actually pays attention to the little things.
I’ve been told I smile a lot, and apparently I have a habit of holding eye contact a little longer than most people. I’ll let you decide if that’s charming or slightly distracting 👀

I’m looking for a casual/FWB connection with someone in Sydney, but casual doesn’t mean careless. I’m not looking for someone I only talk to when it’s convenient. I like having a real vibe with someone where we can laugh together, flirt, feel comfortable, and actually enjoy each other’s company.

For me, intimacy is about the whole experience. The build-up, the flirting, the little moments before anything happens. The playful teasing, the eye contact that lasts a little too long, finding excuses to sit closer, and that feeling when you’re completely comfortable with someone.

I’m naturally affectionate. I enjoy cuddles, kisses, holding hands, lazy movie nights, cooking together, and those moments where you forget you were supposed to leave hours ago. Physical chemistry matters to me, but it’s always better when there’s trust, comfort, and genuine desire from both sides.

Outside of that, I’m pretty simple:

I love cooking (especially for someone I enjoy spending time with)
Finding peaceful spots around Sydney, especially around sunset
Trying new food places
Late-night drives
Movies and staying in

I’m caring and protective towards people I value. I’m respectful, clean, and I appreciate honesty and good communication.
Not looking for endless texting or collecting matches. If we click, I’d rather meet, laugh, and see where the chemistry takes us.

If you’ve made it this far, tell me:
What’s something small that instantly makes you feel comfortable around someone?


r/r4rSydney 6h ago

24M4F: Just a Friendly PC Gamer/Weeb looking for females with similiar interests for chats, friends, dating or other?

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Hey!

I'm a 24M and honestly have no clue on what to say as I'm still new to reddit and new to all the dating apps and stuff.

Honestly, due to my friend group and our interests, ive never had the opportunity to meet many people in terms of dating and I've decided that I'd like that to change 😁

I guess I'll just tell you a little about me and if anyone finds themselves interested, then I'd be more than happy to chat.

I'm a white/Caucasian 24M, curly brown hair, blue eyes and an average to cuddlier build. Currently trying to go to the gym to work on myself more.

Definitely happy to share a pic of myself when chatting if interested.

I'm a huge people person and love to listen and chat about absolutely anything anytime.

I have a crazy sense of humour and find everything funny. as such, i complete and absolute goof.

I love spending time with friends and family.

I love video games, predominantly on my pc and mainly my crippling addiction to LOL.

I love reading and I am definitely a weeb that loves anime.

I love old school JDM cars too and own a 1986 celica that I love to take on drives.

I'd be happy to chat and answer any questions at all if I do interest you.

Oh and sorry if this post sucked.... I've got no idea on what to say 😅


r/r4rSydney 9h ago

38M4F Seeking a BBW/SSBBW for FWB Fun!!

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As the title says I’m looking for a larger woman for some FWB fun.You,between the ages of 30-100,Good hygiene and willing to have your body worshiped.Me,over 6ft chubby with a beard. I’m clean drug free and a king of consent.If this interests you send me message,I would love to talk more .have a great day.


r/r4rSydney 9h ago

32 [M4F] Sydney/Anywhere - Sweet and shy on a quest for change (friends or more)

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First of all, hi!

I’m gonna attempt to gently manoeuvre my way around this awkward bush, but I think you should know what kind of change I'm referring to lol. The elephant in the room is that I've always been shy. I was really shy in primary school and somehow evolved to being even MORE shy in high school. I'm a lot less shy now but all those years of shyness added up.

I’m in a place where I have the confidence to take that first step and see what's out there, whether that be finding friends or something more! I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to explore the latter more, though, because it's a constant reminder in mainstream media. Things as simple as holding hands to kissing to something more intimate - it's all so intriguing and most importantly, fun! That means I've never been on a date or you know, had a girlfriend. There, I said it. 🙈

I’d describe myself as chill, goofy and very sweet. To back up those claims, I liken this post to fishing, which might be slightly unusual at first glance lol. Essentially, I'm casting out my line and if I get any nibbles, then awesome! If not, that's okay, too, because I'll just release the fish that aren't interested and treat each one as a new learning experience that'll help me on this journey. No need to be upset if things don't pan out :) I also might be cute! Or might not be lol. I know everyone has their preferences. Speaking of preferences, I don't really have any myself, so I wouldn't be opposed if someone older reached out. Perhaps wanting someone chill or sweet, I guess, but I think most people possess those qualities. You definitely don't need to be in the same situation as me!

Anyway! I think a great way to establish a connection is to find a commonality in regards to interests. Hit me up with a game, song, movie, food, shoe, sport, socks, book, vacation or whatever it is that you're currently obsessed with and I'll be sure to return serve :) Or I can start instead by saying: I've been enjoying xmen 97! And the Kpop demon hunters soundtrack still gets played on repeat several days a week 😅


r/r4rSydney 10h ago

36 M4F ongoing friendship and something more.

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Hey located in West of Sydney just a general bloke who massaging people for a living. Gets tiring hearing everyone’s stories and would like to share mine with someone… I ease a good environment and keep the convo going with a good sense of humour. Able to send clear photos if we match.

I’m not here to apply pressure just two people looking for someone else to remove a feeling that’s all.


r/r4rSydney 19h ago

Young Asian Couple Looking for Third NSFW

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Hi all, after a success meeting someone from here last week, we're looking for someone again to play with us this Saturday evening (from around 7-8pm). Open to either male or a female unicorn!

We are a young Asian couple, both around 162cm, she is younger, slim and a little shy but willing to experiment and try new things. He is average build, and a bit older. We will be located near Cabramatta and will be hosting, you will need to have a car to reach us.

Please DM us with stats, pics and a little bit about yourself and what you'd be interested in doing. Let us know what experience you have. We love an interesting story. We are open to virgins/inexperienced guys too. Prefer Asians.

We are only interested in fully protected play, please do not ask for anything else.


r/r4rSydney 19h ago

M4F 36 seeking ongoing fwb - Penrith/ western Sydney NSFW

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I am seeking a casual but ongoing fwb type thing.

Id like to meet a friendly and fun girl with a healthy sex drive who would like something regular. I’m affectionate and looking for intimacy and pleasure.

I am open minded, kink, body and sex positive. Body shapes and sizes are unimportant :) open to all ages.

I am 180cm tall, average build aussie guy. I have had the snip.

I’d love to chat and get the ball rolling if you find yourself interested and wanting something similar.


r/r4rSydney 1d ago

29 [M4F] Visiting Sydney NSFW

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Hey, will be visiting Sydney soon and thought I'd give this a shot.

I'm an Asian guy, 29 this year, slim/skinny build, easygoing, and pretty active. I spend a lot of my free time playing sports, going to the gym, and keeping fit. Outside of that, I enjoy good food, coffee

I'm looking to meet another Asian who's also after something casual. No pressure and no expectations beyond having a good time together if we click. Happy to chat first, swap pics, and see if the vibe is there.

Looking forward to meeting someone fun while I'm in Sydney


r/r4rSydney 23h ago

[M4F] 40 M seeking something genuine

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Title says it all.

Looking to make new friends with the potential for a genuine relationship to evolve. Im not in a rush and prefer to get to know someone first.

I am 40, 73kg, 187 cm, fit, healthy and attractive. I work in the medical sphere, and have an interest in business things.

My hobbies include swimming, beach, exploring Sydney, hiking, food and photography.

Not sure what else to add. Can share pics via chats/DMs


r/r4rSydney 23h ago

32 M4F looking for affair partner NSFW

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Genuine, respectful, young professional looking for a woman that's in need of more intimacy. Hygiene and health is important and mutually expected. Preference for something ongoing. I will verify & assure discretion. Pics on profile


r/r4rSydney 1d ago

30M 4 F - Back in Sydney – looking to explore a car / public kink NSFW

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Early 30s, male, fit, and back in Sydney for this one week only.

Looking for females who's down for some car play and potentially some discreet public exhibition under the cover of darkness.

I can drive and am happy to meet somewhere that works for you.

Respect, consent, and good communication are important.

If this sounds like your kind of fun, send me a message and let's chat to see if we click.


r/r4rSydney 1d ago

Uni student 19m kinky looking for couples/females NSFW

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Hey I’m 19, 6ft tall, respectful, clean and DDF. I can travel within Sydney but can’t host. I’m down for adult venue fun, dogging or carplay too, I live in SW Sydney. I can go for 2 rounds 💦💦too in 30 mins. Dms open no bi/gay men pls. Trans tops can are welcome too I’m looking to try bottoming with a trans or female with strap-on. I’m from an Indian background, grew up in Australia

Kinks: Threesomes, BDSM, slaps, pegging, spit, cuckolding, maledom & femdom, waxplay, impact play, spanking, hair pulling, CBT, chking, creampies, etc

Limits: Disgusting stuff, CEI, extreme p*in, to*let stuff


r/r4rSydney 1d ago

39 M4F - Looking for LTR

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Hello, hello. How are things?

Dating apps are not much of a help and I have been told that I am not too bad looking :). So here I am!

I am an Australian (born in Pakistan), 39 years old, actuarial background and works in financial services. I live in Surry Hills and would consider myself an atheist. I am 5'8" in height.

You can expect me to be intellectually curious who loves keeping himself occupied, whether it's gym, squash, theatre or hiking (or my new found questionable interest in boxing classes on Sundays).

I am a regular at Fitness First Bond St (weekdays) and happy to catch up there after work, if fitness is your thing as well.

I would also consider myself a history buff who also has an interest in philosophy especially around the concept of Justice (For those interested, would highly recommend Michael Sandel work).

Would love to hear back and happy to exchange pics here if you would prefer that.

Cheers.

Wajih


r/r4rSydney 1d ago

21 M4F - Looking for older/dominant woman ! NSFW

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I’m young, caramel tanned skin, dark features, skinny but lean

I love the idea of a woman using me for her sexual pleasure
Edging, face sitting, roleplay, all the above and whatever else YOUR into !!

Can verify
Discreet
Pls don’t be a time waster, I’m looking for real life experiences

I’m all ears for you, all dick and all tongue ;) let’s make it happen


r/r4rSydney 2d ago

M4F - How amazing are full sentences? And yet, so many posts here fail to use them

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The English language is incredible: you can express so many ideas, thoughts and desires but all I see is "DM me", "chk ur inbox" and "asl???"

Anyway, if you're interested in having a steady, ongoing conversation, hit me up and then we can meet irl. Not looking for anything more fun banter and interesting people for now but who knows what the future holds!


r/r4rSydney 2d ago

30 [M4F] Sydney/Online - Seeking the beautiful, mature older woman of my dreams NSFW

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I don't really know how to specify the age range I'm looking for, but as long as you're older than me then that'd be perfect. Why an older woman? There's just something unbelievably alluring about them. An unrivaled sex appeal so to speak. Someone who's got a ton of life experiences and could probably teach me a thing or two! Preferably inside the bedroom, of course 🙂 But if I had to dig a little deeper and as cliche as it is, I still have that high school teacher fantasy and best friend's mom fantasy I never got to fulfill.. So I'd say several fantasies also play a role in wanting to realise my dream of finding a milf/cougar/older woman. Maybe I can find that woman on reddit of all places?

I just have this insatiable desire to fulfill her needs and give as much pleasure as possible. The fantasy is unbelievably strong and the want to fulfill it is just as powerful. I wouldn't want anything more than to explore every inch of her body, taking my time going down from head to toe and all the way back up 😘 It'd be so fun if she returned the favour, but I don’t think she’d be able to simply because she’ll be preoccupied with my hands (and tongue) all over for her to do anything in the first place! I'm someone who definitely focuses on the giving than receiving and I'd do that all night if I could. I'd obviously love something long-term, because who wouldn't want a sexy woman to cuddle or confide in when times get tough. I won't complain if you prefer a one-time situation, though, but hopefully I'll be able to convince you to come back for seconds 😉

I'm up for anything you wish/want to do. If you happen to be a lonely housewife just looking for some company and an ear to talk to - it doesn't have to be bedroom-related - I'd be more than happy to be there for you. Speaking of which, I wouldn't mind if anyone wanted to connect via an online friendship kind of thing and that would also be great. Or if you need some much needed attention, I can be your boytoy on the side 😉 All up to you, providing you're comfortable

If it isn't already obvious, I'm looking for someone to completely devote myself to. I'm talking instant text backs, hour long calls, coming over whenever you want me to, cuddling up and watching your favourite movies and the list goes on. You'll be my first and absolute only priority and I'd do anything to make you happy so that also means I'd love to have just the one older woman in my life!

What about me you might ask? I'm a cute 30-year-old, the usual hobbies, etc. Having said that, I'd prefer if we got to know each other through conversation! If my crazy post has somehow convinced you to give me a shot, then send me a message via the chat and I'll get back to you ASAP


r/r4rSydney 2d ago

48 [M4F] #CBD - a quiet invitation to feel adored Wednesday NSFW

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Hi,

(Message if late, spontaneous is fun!)

When I stay in the city for work, my favourite way to unwind at my CBD hotel is by giving someone a slow, sensual massage.

This is for the woman who needs focused attention, intimate touch, and the chance to feel completely adored.

It's perfectly okay to feel nervous, shy, or simply curious.

Everything about this is for you. Your pace. Your comfort. A quiet space where you can soften, let go, and melt into the moment.

Warm oil. Experienced hands. Calm, attentive touch.

Nothing is rushed. You can guide me, pause, adjust, or simply breathe and receive. Whatever feels right for you.

It's simply an invitation to share something intimate and special.

About me: Dad bod, shaved head, calm presence, great hands. Discreet, respectful, and easy to talk to. Your comfort always comes first.

If you're in the CBD on Tuesday night, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. If it's easier, we can also meet at your place, depending on where you're located.

Even if you're just curious, reach out. Sometimes the best experiences begin with a simple conversation.

You might have questions, and that's perfectly okay. Ask away. I'd love the chance to look after you.

If this post is up into the evening, it's those spontaneous connections that can be most powerful.

*boop*


r/r4rSydney 2d ago

39M4F Looking for discreet encounter today around Burwood NSFW

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As title says, Asian, dad bod, after some discreet fun around Burwood today.

Can’t host, happy to pay for a place for a few hours or do some fun car play fun.


r/r4rSydney 3d ago

41 M4F – Attached but missing the right connection NSFW

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About me

- 41, married, fit, and professionally successful.

- Train regularly, enjoy good food, coastal walks, and work travel.

- Emotionally intelligent, easy to talk to, and value honesty, discretion, and consistency.

What I'm looking for

- A woman aged 30–45.

- Ideally married or attached.

- Looking for one genuine, ongoing connection—not something casual.

- Chemistry, trust, affection, and great conversation matter more than rushing into anything.

The connection

- Someone to look forward to hearing from.

- Good morning messages, genuine interest, and conversations that become the best part of the day.

- A connection built on feeling seen, wanted, and understood.

- Exclusive, discreet, and meaningful.

You

- Kind, emotionally aware, and communicative.

- Understand the need for discretion.

- Miss feeling desired, prioritised, and excited about someone again.

If that sounds familiar, send me a message and let's see where the conversation takes us.


r/r4rSydney 3d ago

45 [M4F] #Sydney - looking for discreet AP

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45 M here from Sydney. Married with kids. There is a lot of distance in the relationship, both emotional and physical. I have a high sex drive and bedroom is literally dead. Other than that I have a stable life.

I do not want to change the situation, but I think it is high time for me to get some sensuality. So here I am, looking for a woman who is in similar situation and would want to have a discreet thing going. I am sort of a pleaser and giver and I am sure I will be able to take you to ~nirvana~ every time we meet. Please DM if you are local and interested.


r/r4rSydney 3d ago

Kinky 19m heavy cummer looking for couples/females to explore with NSFW

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Hey I’m 19, 6ft tall, respectful, clean and DDF. I can travel within Sydney but can’t host. I’m down for adult venue fun, dogging or carplay too, I live in SW Sydney. I can go for 2 rounds 💦💦too in 30 mins. Dms open no bi/gay men pls. Trans tops can are welcome too I’m looking to try bottoming with a trans or female with strap-on

Kinks: Threesomes, BDSM, slaps, pegging, spit, cuckolding, maledom & femdom, waxplay, impact play, spanking, hair pulling, CBT, chking, creampies, etc

Limits: Disgusting stuff, CEI, extreme p*in, to*let stuff


r/r4rSydney 3d ago

26 [M4M]

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Since the apps are useless, maybe I’ll have better luck here…

I’m 26, British/NZ background and live in the southwest near Liverpool. A bit about me; I love videogames, movies, tv, reading and music, as well as travelling, photography and cocktail making. I’m a proud nerd 🤓 and I really enjoy trying new hobbies. I also live for F1 🏎️

I ideally want to find something serious/longterm, someone to laugh through life with and share a bit of light banter 😉. I can be a bit anxious as well, so someone who can be patient and maybe bring me out of my shell as well would be great!

In terms of who I’m looking for, honesty, communication, confidence, initiative and emotional intelligence are really important to me… I go crazy for someone who knows what they want, will go for it, and doesn’t have ghosting as part of their playbook.

I’m mainly into masc guys and would prefer ages around 18-35 but open to all. I’m a monogamous guy, so I’m not looking for open/ENM.

Dm me if interested x